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    Cyburbian cch's avatar
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    Sorry to hear about the passing of your niece's brother-in-law. But I'm glad to hear that you are doing well.

    My mother has suffered with a kidney disease for most of my life. She had to do dialysis, then she got a transplant, about 12 years later that kidney failed and now she is on dialysis again, waiting for another transplant. There is now a dialysis center near their home, but the first time she did dialysis the nearest one was about a 40 minute drive away. To me, that seems like nothing. But my parents opted to train and do the dialysis right there in our home. I was in middle school at the time. My mom didn't want a permanent port sticking out of her stomach, so 4 times a week my dad had to insert giant needles into her arm (they actually did surgary to make her veins bigger there, so they could handle it) and she had to be hooked up to that machine, in our family room, for 4 hours at a time. My dad had to take so much time off work for the training, and he had to basically play doctor to her, which had it's good and bad moments. It was quite a sacrifice. And it went on for 2 1/2 years before she got her donor kidney. Does anyone else have stories about dialysis, particulary anyone else who has dealt with doing it at home. I've never met anyone else who's lived through that.

    This time around she's been on dialysis for over 4 years now, waiting for a donor. Of course, I urge everyone to be organ donors. She's lucky there is kidney dialysis, but for most organ failures there is no such option.

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    Cyburbian Emeritus Bear Up North's avatar
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    cch......Sorry about your mother. Hang in there. Life throws a lot of lemons at us. We are in your corner.

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    It has been awhile since I posted and I wasn't sure where to start, but this thread seemed most appropriate. My full attention has been with my family. What started out as good news turned to tragedy. I was thrilled when I found out Mrs. Transformer was pregnant. Although we were slightly older, we both looked forward to a baby. Our other children were also excited. About four months into the pregnancy we found out the baby had a heart defect. Although the heart specialist did not see the defect as a serious problem, (it was something that could be handled with surgery after the baby was born) we decided to have more tests. In hindsight I am not sure this was a good idea. The tests showed our baby had Trisomy 18, a relatively rare genetic disorder that is always fatal.

    We had to go through the next three months of the pregnancy knowing our baby would die. There is a wonderful organization call StarShine Hospice that helped us through this period. We knew our baby was a boy and before he was born we named in Nicholas. Nicholas was born 2 months premature on December 6, which happens to be the Feast of St Nicholas. Nicholas lived for 15 minutes.

    Up to this point our family had yet to experience the death of a close relative. It was the saddest day of my life and looking into the eyes of my wife and children it was certainly the saddest day of their lives.

    They say time heals all wounds and to a certain degree its true. I can say that looking back on all the events that happened one of things that stands out is all the support we received from our friends and families. Tragedy has a way of bringing people together. As a young boy that only lived 15 minutes, Nicholas had a tremendous impact and touched the lives of many people well beyond our immediate family.

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    transformer, my thoughts are with during these sad times. I wish strength and good things upon you and yours.
    You get all squeezed up inside/Like the days were carved in stone/You get all wired up inside/And it's bad to be alone

    You can go out, you can take a ride/And when you get out on your own/You get all smoothed out inside/And it's good to be alone
    -Peart

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    Praise and prayers for your entire family.
    Continue to have courage and strength throught this sad time.
    Part of that was your willingness to share with all of us.
    Oddball
    Why don't you knock it off with them negative waves?
    Why don't you dig how beautiful it is out here?
    Why don't you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?
    From Kelly's Heroes (1970)


    Are you sure you're not hurt ?
    No. Just some parts wake up faster than others.
    Broke parts take a little longer, though.
    From Electric Horseman (1979)

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    Cyburbian nerudite's avatar
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    Wow, transformer... I'm so sorry for your loss. It is really hard losing a family member, as I did recently. The only advice I can give is talk it through with somoene you trust or a counsellor. I wish I had done more that when my brother passed, and now it's coming back to haunt me a bit.

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    transformer, so sorry to hear your news of your family's loss.

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    Transformer, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.

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    I'm so sorry. I'll pray for you and your family.

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    transformer.....So very sorry to hear of your family's loss. My thoughts and prayers go to you and yours. You were very brave to share this with us.

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    transformer, that must have been a very diffcult post. My thoughts, strength, and healing are with you and your family.

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    Transformer....

    My heart goes out to you and your family.
    "He defended the cause of the poor and needy, and so all went well. Is that not what it means to know me?" Jeremiah 22:16

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    I am sorry to hear about your family's loss transformer. Condolences to you, Mrs T and your other children.

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    Quote Originally posted by transformer View post
    They say time heals all wounds and to a certain degree its true. I can say that looking back on all the events that happened one of things that stands out is all the support we received from our friends and families. Tragedy has a way of bringing people together. As a young boy that only lived 15 minutes, Nicholas had a tremendous impact and touched the lives of many people well beyond our immediate family.
    I have been trying to think of the name of the artist (from the Rennaissance?) who lost a son and for some years painted very gloomy pictures, but later mellowed again. I also am reminded of the richness of the songs of Eric Clapton, who lost a son at a young age (I think the boy was 7). I believe the song "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart was written about Clapton's son, who would always remain a child in the memories of those who knew him as he would never have the chance to grow up.

    ((hugs))

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    Thank you for all your kind words. As I said before the love and support my wife and I have recieved over the last year has been tremendous; and not just from family and friends, but from total strangers. Through this I have gained a greater appreciation of what is truely important in life - people.

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    Update & Other News

    This Bear has plurasy. It's a problem with the lining of the lungs. It is not a fatal disease, although it used to be. Dang uncomfortable, though.

    It can be caused by a number of things. One of the causes is cancer, although not the type of cancer that I have beeen fighting for 10 years. I have been on a heavy-duty drug to fight the disease, since Tuesday of last week. Each day is a little better.

    What caused it in this ole' Bear? Who the hexx knows.....
    _____

    During all of this plurasy business I have had to work very long days, because of a much more serious situation, with the infant grand-daughter of one of my supervisors at the workplace.

    Hannah was born a few days before Labor Day. She was born with an under-developed heart. After a few days of consultation and testing in Toledo, she was Life-Flighted to the University of Michigan's Children's Hospital. At first they thought they would have to do open-heart surgery.

    After a few days of further testing, though, they passed on that surgery. Little Hannah is struggling, but improving. Her grandma, my supervisor, is back at work.

    Just imagine open-heart surgery on an infant, only a week old. Wow.
    _____

    Makes my chest pain seem pretty dang uninmportant.

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    Sorry you aren't feeling too hot. Pleurisy can hurt alot I know. A friend of mine had it but it only lasted a week and she found that soaking in a hot bath seemed to help ease the pain a bit along with the happy drugs. Take it easy and rest!
    "He defended the cause of the poor and needy, and so all went well. Is that not what it means to know me?" Jeremiah 22:16

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    Ovarian Cancer

    There is a possibility that Katie has ovarian cancer. No estimate on the probability. She will go under the knife on the first Monday in October. We will know after that.

    Earlier this week they attempted (again) to remove a kidney stone. Since the lithotriptor did not work (last month) they tried a "basket". During the bedside discussions the nurse said that men refer to this type of procedure as "brain surgery".

    A tiny basket is inserted and attempts to remove the stone(s). We are not sure if it worked, because the stone may have broken up into little pieces on its' own. She is still in some pain, but it may also be related to the ovarian thing.

    It really seems strange for Katie to be going through this stuff.....
    _____

    Sunday's web edition of the Detroit Free Press had a very sad story. A young girl is dying and there is nothing that can be done. She has moved in and out of remission and now remission seems unlikely. She has told her father (who lost his wife to another disease just about a year ago) that she doesn't "want to die". All she wants to do is ride her bike, but that is getting tough to do, as her little body shuts down. Tear-jerking story that will not have a happy ending.

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    Quote Originally posted by Bear Up North View post
    There is a possibility that Katie has ovarian cancer.
    _____
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    Geez, Bear, please keep us posted on developments. I'll be thinking about ya'll and keeping my fingers crossed.

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    ^^-- What she said. My thoughts are with you and Katie.

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    Well wishes to Katie and hopefully the results come back as nothing.

    I myself had the bejesus scared out of me by my new doctor who left a VM telling me to come into the clinic ASAP. Seems I have a bit of an issue with a kidney so I had to be the vampire's prey again and get to take Cipro. Hey at least I won't be contracting anthrax this week! Follow-up is tomorrow.
    "He defended the cause of the poor and needy, and so all went well. Is that not what it means to know me?" Jeremiah 22:16

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    Bear, we'll keep our fingers crossed for Katie until something is known for certain. It may be as simple as a cyst or some endometrial tissue (my wife had/issues with both and had a mortal scare when they first found a mass). If, however, it turns out she does have some sort of malignant growth, she has someone by her side who is profoundly familiar with the trials and travails of cancer treatment. She couldn't have asked for someone in a better position to understand what must be going through her mind than you.
    People will miss that it once meant something to be Southern or Midwestern. It doesn't mean much now, except for the climate. The question, “Where are you from?” doesn't lead to anything odd or interesting. They live somewhere near a Gap store, and what else do you need to know? - Garrison Keillor

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    Well said, Maister. My thoughts are with you Bear!

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    Yup, what Maister said. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers.

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    Struggles With My Brother

    As I have mentioned before, my older brother (63) has Alzheimer's-like symptoms. When his family was in for Thanksgiving Day, we had a chance to discuss his condition with my sister-in-law, his wife. The actual diagnosis is a form of dementia, affecting portions of his brain that control balance and memory.

    The day had bits of sadness mingled in with the usual dinner table discussions of family, friends, jobs, weather, sports, medical issues, my younger brother and his family, remembrances of long-gone Mom and Dad, animals, politics, and some bad puns.

    My older brother just sits and stares. When he stands up he doesn't even know where to go.....he just starts walking in a direction, opening bedroom doors or going up and down the stairs. He was holding himself so I figured out quickly that he needed to go to the bathroom. I asked him if he did and he just started following me, saying nothing. He actually couldn't figure out how to get out of the bathroom.

    In the kitchen I was busy cooking and had the old-time music machine playing The Beatles great new album, "Love". He came in the kitchen and I asked him if he remembered The Beatles. He just stood and stared at the stove, not answering.

    Katie and I are very impressed with Karen, my bro's wife. She has to constantly watch-over him, night and day, 24-7. She is also raising a 14-year old grandson, because that boy's mother is living on an Indian Reservation in South Dakota. Retirement for my brother and sis-in-law has not been what they expected. The family is trying to talk her into moving to the Toledo area, so we can all be closer and be of help to her from close range. (They live in Painesville Township, OH, about 35 miles east of downtown Cleveland.)
    _____

    Update on Katie's condition.....it is NOT cancer, although she is filled with ovarian cysts, etc. She has to decide on the type of surgery to have, probably in the early part of 2007. Full hysterectomy or partial.

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