I have referred to this in another thread: I posted to a forum for web designers and there was a pile -on of people telling me how to run my life, basically. So, at some point, I kind of said "this is all off topic and has nothing to do with the question of the original poster, please contact me privately or start a new thread if you have anything further to say". Well, that didn't end it, in fact the MODERATOR has written two LENGTHY posts telling me how ate up I am. Gee, thanks, as a newbie to the forum, I so appreciate that. Someone who is apparently not a moderator has finally said "can we please move on?"
A) If you happen to be a member of the human species and have any clue whatsoever, you should defend the new person from long-time members abusing their social position of power and walking all over them.
B) The actions of the list owner and moderator(s) are "seminal": the character of how they conduct themselves will deeply effect how others conduct themselves. Because the Internet is such a wild west kind of frontier, the only meaningful leadership is "lead by example": if the folks in charge act civilized and respectful, you will have a generally civilized and respectful climate. If they act like jerks, so will other people.
C) Blaming the newbie for not knowing the culture and publicly lecturing them is a great way to discourage lots of new people from bothering to join in and encourages existing members to be elitist and exclusionary and several other things that I can't think of the words for right now.
D) A lengthy lecture of ME when no one that I was arguing with had so much as 2 words said to them is blatant bias and where does this twit get off on saying crap like "I am sorry you feel you have been insulted.." in the midst of her adding insult to injury with her lengthy lecture of me???
E) God, it makes me so tempted to say something sweepingly judgmental like 'Are ALL web designers that deficient in social skills???" except I know other web designers and they aren't like that. It is something inherent to that particular forum and it obviously comes from the top down: the moderator has no social skills and no clue, so the forum has none and never will. It is no wonder traffic there is so incredibly low.
F) Thank god for decently run forums like Cyburbia and a few others that I hang out in. I am having an Elitist Snob day in which I think most folks are too freakin' stupid to bother to talk to and too freakin' stupid to figure out a few obvious basics about how to moderate and too freakin' stupid to be this upset over. So, being able to come here means I will refrain from digging out my old turtle shell and ignoring the entire world.
Okay, time for me to remove that forum from my list of forums I occasionally surf. It isn't worth it.
Anyone know any good web design forums to surf/hang in???