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    Cyburbian Plus PlannerGirl's avatar
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    Who do planners date

    Ok all this dating talk has got me thinking...who DO planners date? Who actualy works out to be a good mate? Do planners date other planners? Engineers? Lawyers? Mullet heads?

    We seem to be a pretty politicaly aware bunch, community minded, etc who makes the mark for us?

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    Planner Spouses in my office:
    1. Another Planner/GIS guy
    2. Elementary School Teacher
    3. Elem. School Librarian
    4. Website developer

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    Being recently re-single after 13 years, when I get around to dating I'd really prefer not to date a politcally aware person. Too draining. I'd compare it to a woman that dates a gynecologist, and he comes home and says, "Oh honey, if I have to see another one of those..."

    I think I'll go for the bartender or ADHD afflicted.

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    Planners date whoever will put up with them commenting on and critiquing every single sign, building, city, landscaping, parking lot, main street, streetlight, street system, etc. You can't take a planner anywhere without them making several planning-related comments. It drives my friends nuts!
    "I'm a white male, age 18 to 49. Everyone listens to me, no matter how dumb my suggestions are."

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    My fiancee is a student, and wants to be a mortician...

    The spouses of planners in my office include the following professions:

    Teacher
    Physiotherapist
    Lab Technician
    Human Resources Manager
    Other planners
    Hospital Administrator
    Exotic Dancer














    Okay, I made that last one up.

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    My grad school program created numerous planner-architect and planner-planner relationships that are still going strong after graduation. I think it is similar to law school, where you spend so much time with a small close-knit group of people that relationships are bound to happen.
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    Let's see ... the last women I dated that I could safely call "girlfriends" included an attorney and a voice coach/voiceover artist. Women I've had dates with in the recent past include a hotel sales manager, Internet marketing firm owner, singer, hotel concierge, pharmacist, and a television news reporter.

    I've historically clicked well with other planners (although dating opportunities have seldom come up), print and broadcast media professionals, visual and performing artists, and marketing professionals. I had a huge crush on a traffic engineer at my last job, but she dated "Joe Colorado" types -- the 6'2" six-pack abbed types who lead lifestyles from the pages of Outdoor magazine.

    This sounds a bit elitist, but I prefer dating women that are either students or working professionals ... basically, a peer. Political orientation doesn't matter, but I don't fancy the prospect of long term companionship with someone who is evangelical or fundamentalist in their faith. I don't want to be viewed as a potential subject for witnessing and/or conversion, or as less equal because of my spiritual beliefs. Likewise, I feel like I' m walking on eggshells when I've with someone who is too crunchy and/or progressive. One ex considered my picky eating to be racist because I was "shunning the foods" of certain cultures. Seriously.

    Several years ago, at an APA national conference in Orlando, I had the huevos to ask a woman who was in line at a buffet to join me for lunch. We were buddies throughout the conference, and we really hit it off quite well. We've gotten together at every conference I've been to after that. Much as I wanted to, I never kissed her, never tried to "make a move." The logistics of long distance romance, especially to someone who is romantically challenged like me, would be a very difficult barrier to jump.
    Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell. -- Edward Abbey

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    In our office:

    Other halves are:

    none/single
    retired
    school teacher
    none/single
    none/single
    none/single

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    Where are you Bturk, sounds like i might have beter luck there!
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    Remember this motto to live by: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO- HOO what a ride!'"

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    I'm married to a Hair Stylist, it is amazing the kinds of information I get on townspeople....

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    My wife: skills instructor for developmentally disabled adults. Wants to be a physical education teacher after finishing school eventually.
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    who i have dated

    Lets see for me I've dated too many attys to mention, a couple physicists, CEOs of their own softwear/internet/etc companies, one engineer and one swiss banker *the gated community guy*

    So many geeks


    Never had the chance to date another planner. Most I know are old, married and a bit to...stuffy for me.
    "They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." Ben Franklin

    Remember this motto to live by: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO- HOO what a ride!'"

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    Originally posted by PlannerGirl
    Where are you Chet, sounds like i might have beter luck there!
    I'm comfortably off the market for a while, sorry.

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    Despite being a confidant professional, I have never really liked dating other professionals (see bturk's opinion on gynecologists). I usually am attracted to the rugged blue-collar type guy... but with some serious brains and a wicked sense of humor. I've dated a student (who is now a geneticist), a waiter, a computer programmer, and quite a few blue collar guys. My current bf is an ex-computer programmer turned forklift operator... so he's the brainy tough guy type I like.

    As for other planners in the office:
    -Aspiring news reporter (currently waitress)
    -Space/interior planner (setting up offices and stuff)
    -School teacher
    -Physical therapist

    The last job I had in the States had a lot of planner pairings, since most of the people I knew met in grad school.

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    My wife is an elementary school teacher. It appears to me that this is pretty common for planners to be married to someone in the education field. Why?

    My wife loves kids, loves teaching, and absolutely hates anything to do with governement, policy, and politics. I guess that is why it works.

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    Originally posted by nerudite
    Maybe school teachers and education types are the only ones that can listen to whining/complaining all day long and have it roll off them.
    Perhaps we should date the deaf...
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    I've dated professional men (mostly arrogant pricks). I've got my eye an engineer right now........................
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    Originally posted by Planderella
    I've dated professional men (mostly arrogant pricks). I've got my eye an engineer right now........................
    Poor guy...sounds like he doesn't stand a chance :p

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    Originally posted by Tranplanner


    Poor guy...sounds like he doesn't stand a chance :p
    Note to self: Some of these boards are not meant to be read while consuming beverages or with a mouth full of food!!! Thanks for the choke of the day Tranplanner! ROFL

    I can be the biggest flirt but when it comes to making the first move, that's when my G.R.I.T.S. mentality kicks in and I wait for the guy to do it. I'm not nearly as bold as people think I am.
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    Besides Carmen

    I wish to maintain my political viability so I will remain mute on this issue.

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    Let's see, a few teachers, an attorney, a couple social workers, a few non-profit sector administrative types.... It really doesn't matter to me what they do for a living so long as 1) they enjoy the outdoors and travel, and 2) they do not and never will have cats.

    Beyond that, I tend to find myself attracted to women who are independent, self-relient, have opinions, and are intelligent. I suppose it would also be nice if they were either very wealthy or a swimsuit model. Better yet, they could have a dog.

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    Originally posted by Michael Stumpf
    I suppose it would also be nice if they were either very wealthy or a swimsuit model. Better yet, they could have a dog.
    And why not all three?!
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    Originally posted by Planderella

    I can be the biggest flirt but when it comes to making the first move, that's when my G.R.I.T.S. mentality kicks in and I wait for the guy to do it. I'm not nearly as bold as people think I am.
    Maybe you can drop your lacy hankie when he walks by? Didn't that work for Scarlet?

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    I got dogs but not in any way shape or form a swim suit model or loaded with money. Come on Im a planner.

    Geeky with a twist.

    washed the hell hounds last night-gotta find a boyfriend to do that! Or at least clean the furclog out.
    "They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." Ben Franklin

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    Originally posted by Tranplanner


    Maybe you can drop your lacy hankie when he walks by? Didn't that work for Scarlet?
    It may have worked for Scarlet back in the day, but now we have to be a little more forward/risque. I may have to start dropping lacy thongs.
    "A witty woman is a treasure, a witty beauty is a power!"

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