A family member was telling me about about problems he was having with his 16 year old daughter and how he thought she was sexually active. I asked him why he thought that and he proceeded to recite this litany of evidence and it became clear to me this 'evidence' was the product of extensive spying. When I say 'spying', I'm not talking about accidently overhearing her say something over the phone or finding a condom wrapper, I'm talking about actively and deliberately listening in on all her phone conversations, trying to surreptiously follow her around while on dates. Trying to arrange 'set-ups' where he would advertise he'd be gone at a certain time from the home and try to walk in on them during that time. I told him he needed to see a shrink. He says because I dont have a teen daughter I just don't understand how he's doing this for her benefit.
I can think of no better way of driving his daughter away from him than doing what he's doing.
So, Throbbing Brain, what do YOU think is the appropriate amount of surveillance/observation for a parent to track their teenager?