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    Cyburbian MitchBaby's avatar
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    On-Line dating - People's opinions

    Hey all,

    As we all know, life as a planner is damn busy, so I've recently begun thinking about joining one of the many many many on-line dating sites out there. Just seeking other people's oppinions!

    Thanks
    Mitchbaby: Proud to be a :canada: planner and a :canada: surfer

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    Cyburbian ludes98's avatar
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    It seems that several people here have met their mates online, though maybe not through a dating service. Our glorious leader has done the onoine dating thing without much luck. I have personally never done it, but would not be opposed.

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    The only person I know of that did the on-line dating thing is one (1) of my ex-wives. The reason I heard about it.....she made an on-line date with a friend of a friend, from nearby Deefield, MI.....about twenty (20) miles north of Toledo.

    I know they went on at least one (1) date. Don't know how it ended-up.

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    Cyburbian PlannerByDay's avatar
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    There have been a lot of threads relating to online dating. The Marriage Proposal Thread is one of them.

    I for one did the online thing. There are a bunch of bad apples out there but I found a good one.

    We got married this past Sept., we dated 7 months and got married 5 months after that.

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    Isn't Dan the resident specialist in this field? IMO, it's a waste of time. Not that I would really know.
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    On line dating huh? I'll sum it up to you in one simple word: NO! (unless you're some kind of masochist....)

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    I've never tried it, but its worth a shot. You don't know anything about someone if you bump into them in a bar or bookstore either. At least this way you know something about the person (assuming they're honest), and unlike old classified ads, pictures are included. Unlike the real world, you also have the benefit of knowing that they're "available."

    Just don't start giving out your credit card number until at least a few e-mails.

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    I think it's worth a try if you don't get your expectations too high. I tried it a few times and found that I would get convinced I had so much in common with a woman and then I'd meet her and the chemistry wouldn't be there. There is still no substitute for meeting someone the old fashioned way, like by joining a club or some activity you really like.

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    Past 3 GF's have been people I have met on line... the the current one is going well... who know.
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    Been there, done that. Met a really nice guy but he lived too far away, and I wasn't ready to relocate at that time. We initially met (face to face) in a neutral city then I visited him a couple of times.

    One of my best friends met her husband online. Very ironic because he lived about 20 miles from her! They have been happily married for 2 years and he is the greatest guy. She is a very active Catholic and joined a site that was targeted towards that religion.

    One of my co-workers recently joined E-Harmony. Not sure how it's going but no dates as of yet. This service matches people based on specific interests, etc. Then you basically get a photo of that person and can decide if you want further communication.

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    I've tried it and find it an OK way to meet people. Met a few people who were nice/, a few ok and a few blahhs. I find it a pretty easy way to meet people and talk to them before actually going out.
    Too lazy to beat myself up for being to lazy to beat myself up for being too lazy to... well you get the point....

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    I've spent too much time making fun of online dating to see it as being anything bug Pathetic. So NO WAY for me. It's real life or bust.

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    Don't do it! just live and you'll meet her/him/transgender whatever your cup of tea, just get out there and make casual contact with people, it'll happen.

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    I've tried it and had mixed results. Yahoo is a waste of time and money. I don't think anything developed out of any of the dates I got there. Match was a little better. There were a few repeating dates, and one relationship that lasted about three months. Last month I tried eharmony. It is far and away the best of them all. I have met two very nice women, and have made a strong connection with one of them. It is about a month now, and the relationship keeps getting stronger. Don't pay any attention to what some think - this is as good a way to meet women as getting set up by a friend.
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    Have never tried it. Not really interested in it. Maybe if I stay sinlge long enough I;ll give it a shot. I don't know. A friend did it and he met someone and they have been together for quite sometime. Sounds like a lot of people here have had good luck with it.

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    Never tried it -- but, um, I have been married for more than 20 years. However, if what you are doing now isn't working, what harm would there be? And the only way you will know if it works for YOU, is if you try it. But you might take pointers from folks like Cardinal as to what services are better.

    I, of course, will never have dating problems -- since dating is against my utter lack of religion.

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    I signed up for a couple of weeks because my friend seemed to be having lots of fun with it! I exchanged emails with a couple of guys but never met up with any of them. I wasn't really serious about it so I pulled my profile after a couple of weeks. Some guys were just overly eager!!

    And then I met someone at a bar a couple of weeks later

    I have seen a few people give it a go, and go on dates with people they met online, but it seems they get tired of it after a while. I only know one couple who established a lasting relationship.

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    I'm doing it now... and... theres a lot of weirdos out there. Guys my age seem to think that having no job/schooling/ambition is a great way to snag the ladies.

    I'm sharing some emails with someone now, but I don't know if its really gonna pan out.

    I've done it in the past, and only went on one date, and I wasn't really nuts about the guy.

    My bro met his now-wife online... at least I'm pretty sure, and they doing good.

    I think its just a desperation thing in my case... moved to a new town, no friends here, don't get out much, and therefore don't really have an opportunity to meet any guys.

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    ok I'm a litle harsh, just be careful.

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    Quote Originally posted by jordanb
    I've spent too much time making fun of online dating to see it as being anything bug Pathetic. So NO WAY for me. It's real life or bust.
    I met my wife online. So don't go bashing something you don't know anything about. It was a freak coincidence. My friend happened to have met her previously at a party. We met a few days later, started making out within an hour, 6 months later we are engaged, 1 year after contact we are married. I've never fell so right about anything in all my life.

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    Quote Originally posted by Kobayashi
    I met my wife online. So don't go bashing something you don't know anything about. It was a freak coincidence. My friend happened to have met her previously at a party. We met a few days later, started making out within an hour, 6 months later we are engaged, 1 year after contact we are married. I've never fell so right about anything in all my life.
    I've met a few females online over the years, but nothing really permanant as most of the best ones have been on or near the coasts and/or in Canada, too far away from Wisconsin. I do like the ability to get to know people from the inside out, which is not at all possible when the first meetings are 'in person' but what on-line is ideal for. I also still keep in touch with some of them as platonic friends.

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    Met my bf on a personals site-worked very well for us.
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    I had left my dating chances in the hands of fate, assisted by taking some evening classes and joining some groups, for many years. I was unwilling to accept thqat not meeting anyone was my fate, so I turned to online dating. I've met my last 3 girlfriends online and am now trying to meet #4, and hopefully the last! ...at least for a while. The women on Match.com I found to be serious about meeting someone, but perhaps overly serious, in that they were often judgemental and thinking too much with their critical sides to be able to have a good time with you and enjoy a 1st date. There are some interesting characters on the personals site linked on The Onion (yes, they are real) and seems to attract a lot of quirky, alternative types, if that's what you're looking for. Yahoo has been OK for me, trying for the 1st time since Nov. There are some cool, interesting women on that site, but so far they all seem to have demanding careers that leave them with little time for dating. At least that's what they tell me
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    Online dating. I've never met or dated anyone through a dating service online or otherwise, but I see nothing inherently faulty or wrong with the venue (although there sometimes appears to be something inherently faulty and wrong with some of the participants). Seems a good idea in principle because it provides an opportunity to read some background info about this person, an opportunity to 'chat' online, and also get to see what the person looks like. Now, this individual could be lying about their background or could provide a 10 year old photo, but the bottom line is that honesty is no more prevalent in any other venue (I know, you're all outraged by the suggestion that someone could be less than candid about themselves at a singles bar).

    Being able to 'chat' online also gives a fair measure of a person's intelligence. Some people may not be verbally oriented, or good spellers but it does provide some insight into their ability to communicate ideas.

    What can be particularly fun/informative about personal ads is that one can tell something about a person sometimes by what they don't say in their ad. Example:
    DWF 23 - ISO male for serious relationship who knows how to treat a lady right. Enjoys horseback riding, camping, a night out dancing, or a quiet evening at home. Believes honesty and communication come first. No drunks or druggies. Smokers OK. Must like children.

    Cyburbian online dating experts - tell us about what this (fictitious) woman hasn't (directly) told the world.......
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    Quote Originally posted by Maister

    What can be particularly fun/informative about personal ads is that one can tell something about a person sometimes by what they don't say in their ad. Example:
    DWF 23 - ISO male for serious relationship who knows how to treat a lady right. Enjoys horseback riding, camping, a night out dancing, or a quiet evening at home. Believes honesty and communication come first. No drunks or druggies. Smokers OK. Must like children.

    Cyburbian online dating experts - tell us about what this (fictitious) woman hasn't (directly) told the world.......
    i guess it should read:

    chain-smoking divorsed mother of five seeks man who won't cheat and is willing to spend ever waking hour with me because i am co-dependent beyond believe.

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