Major life/career choices...ugh!

[spokanite]

So, things have been going well. Just wrapped up a Masters in Urban Planning program in June, and have been splitting my time between a private planning firm and working in economic development at a municipality. My interest is strongly biased towards the ED field as that's where my experience is. Still, there's no guarantee of longevity at the municipality due to budget woes.

Out of the blue I'm contacted by an economic development consulting firm on the East Coast who want to fly me out for an interview. It's an excellent opportunity to get learn some great skills. I'm all for relocating, and my serious girlfriend was until she landed her dream job here in town. I know I've not been offered the job back east, but on the chance that I am, I've got one be-yatch of a decision to make.

I know many have encouraged leaving your place of origins to gain perspective and experience. I'm curious - how have you all confronted similar life choices you may have encountered on your way through this profession?

Thanks in advance.

[btrage]

My wife and I agreed that whatever spouse had the better job that would give us the lifestyle that we wanted is where we would live. This includes more than money, such as if the new location has the types of amenities that we want. It's a tough decision that comes down to just more than "the job".

Are you prepared to end your relationship over a career choice? I wouldn't suggest a long distance relationship. Don't know of too many that have survived.

If she has her dream job, then you need to consider the likelihood of finding your dream job where you currently are. If you don't think that you'll be able to find your dream job where you're living and it means that much to you, then end the relationship, move to the east coast, and who knows, maybe she'll follow.

[Lee Nellis]

Setting priorities is fun, huh. A good relationship is more important than any job. But of course, one has to define "good." If you will be regretting the loss of this opportunity, will the relationship continue to be good? Is a decision to stay there really consistent with your goals? There needs to be some serious discussion beween the two of you.

Go to the interview (and take her there with you - no excuses) so that you are both informed about the nature of the choices. Then see where you are at. It is always best to follow your heart, but it is equally true that you shouldn't make assumptions about anything, including where your heart is headed.

[eightiesfan]

Tough call to make. I've been in pretty much the same spot. I think it basically comes down to what is better for you in the long run, your relationship or the job/life experiance. Will you be happy in your current lifestyle knowing you may have passed up a great opportunity. If this is your dream job, take it, if this is your perfect partner don't.

I think btrage and Lee have brought up great points, if the relationship is gonna work you have to compromise. I would also agree that ld relationships are hard! I'd make that a last resort. Best of luck to you!