as many of you know i'm an entry-level planner with a MURP but limited "real" planning experience. my boss, let's call him Bob, knew this when he hired me and told me straight out that he knows i have a lot to learn and that his job will be to help me acquire the tools and skills necessary. Bob has a very open door policy.
when speaking with our planning technician (also new to the dept with less planning experience than me) the tech stated "the last person i'd ask for help would be Bob. i'll ask everyone else but i don't want to have to go to him for help."
so far i've been fairly comfortable asking Bob for help when I have a question or need the history/context of a project. i don't ask Bob "stupid" questions like, "what color is the sky?" but questions necessary to increase my planning knowledge. i'm not opposed to doing the necessary research but if i get stuck somewhere and i know someone else has the answer i want to ask the person with the most knowledge.
so i ask:
1. is it "wrong" for me to be asking my boss for help?
2. should i be exhausing all other avenues before asking a superior for help?
3. planning tech is a man, i'm a woman. do you think implied gender roles have an influence on asking for help?