Sorry this is long, but I've got to vent...
My brother-in-law got involved with a girl a few years ago who is a real class-act . At the time, she was 29 years old, had 4 kids, with two guys, two of which were out of wedlock, and she was recently divorced, and her home was foreclosed on. Well, 4 months into their relationship she got pregnant (of course). He bought a house, her and her brood moved in, and she's been playing "Mary Homemaker" while working part time at the mall.
Not even three years later they now have 2 kids under the age of 2, still aren't married, and she seems to always have the best new clothes and toys for her kids. Keep in mind, there are 6 kids total now, ages 16, 11, 8, 6, 1, and 2 months. And together they do not bring in much money.
Back when she was pregnant with their first child together, a boy, she gave us a ton of hand-me-downs from her girls. She had worked at Gymboree, so she had quite a collection of kids clothes. We appreciated it, donated some to Katrina relief, and still have a lot of it. Well, now she's got a new baby girl, but she is giving us more hand-me-down girl's clothes. When we said "Well take care of these so we can give them back to you, since you have a daughter now." the response was "Oh no, you don't need to do that. I'd like for her to have all new things."
So, to me she is saying "These clothes aren't good enough for my daughter, but they are good enough for yours." It is like a slap in the face, like she honestly thinks she is better than us. It is obvious she can only give her daughter new stuff because she is in debt up to her eyeballs, or because my brother-in-law is a complete pushover with the money. Either way, it angers me and insults me.
I know I'd be stupid to refuse free kid clothes, but I really don't even want those clothes in my house. I'll probably just end up donating all of them, but this puts my relationship with this girl on very shakey ground. I always knew she was irresponsible, but now I realize she is extremely selfish and snotty, too. My husband thinks I am over-reacting. What say the throbbing brain?