My nom de plume is el Guapo and I have been away from this place for well over a year now. Board etiquette suggests one should introduce one's self to the members before returning to the discussions. Or, if one has been away for some time it is polite to bring the membership up to speed on the where’s and why’s of the absence.
I last walked the forums of Cyburbia over a year ago and the details leading up to my decision to depart are not unknown. I didn’t leave with positive thoughts about this place and some of its members. And after much reflection, I realized Cyburbia wasn’t the cause of my stress. I was the cause.
This last year I spent more than a few hours considering what changes I needed to make in myself to allow me to return here, participate, and to do so in a way that is strictly positive. A wise man once said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.” That quote captures the essence of this last year of my life. Change is hard, but very possible.
I considered asking Dan to let this nom de plume die a quiet death and to allow me to return under my real name. He was gracious and considerate in his reply. But, el Guapo has a history for better or worse and I shouldn’t run from that history.
I hope I'll see you around.