Before I go into depth, this is not intended to be raciest in any way. Unfortunately the majority of these observations are of persons of different racial, cultural, or ethnic background from me. I have several friends who are of different race, cultural, or ethnic background who do not do any of the following, but the majority of the people to do the following activities are of particular racial, cultural, or ethnic background.
With that being said, some people need to understand that demanding respect without being willing to give respect just angers people. On my way to dinner the other night, while driving on a busy road through a part of down that is not the safest place to be, a guy who was in his late teens to early 20’s, decided that he was going to cross in the middle of the road to go into the liquor store across the street. He had no respect for the tariff, and thus almost caused several accidents as people had to lock up their breaks to prevent running this punk down. He never even bothered to look at the drivers as if it was not worthy of his time. I am surprised that he did not trip over is baggy pants that were falling off. Yet, he ‘demanded’ respect.
My wife was as angered as I was and she commented that when she is at work, she sees this type of disrespect for everything and everyone all the time. She mentioned that many of the people who come into the ER, don’t have insurance, are lower income, and demand this and that, often times they are just there to use the phone or for drugs. They will claim that they have chest pain or some other ailment, but then refuse treatment! Yet they ‘demand’ respect.
She also mentioned that more times than not, they will use some form of slang language where they refer to little girls as “Mama’s”, will swear constantly, and use language that would make backwoods rednecks look like Harvard graduates. Yet they ‘demand’ respect.
Additionally, I have been in places where people have gotten mad at the wait staff because the waiter did not speak Spanish and the customer refused to speak English, demanding respect. I have gone into stores here in Grand Rapids and the clerk did not speak any English, but was instead spending most of their time gabbing away on their cell phones in Spanish. Yet they ‘demand’ respect.
At what point did we allow this to be a norm in America? For over 200 years, there has been particular cultural and social minimums where parents have taught their children to respect authority, respect their elders, and respect others, and thus, they will respect you back. However it appears that there is a complete breakdown in these minimum standards amongst some cultural groups. There is a cultural element in America, mostly in dense urban areas, where this demand for respect is only achieved by disrespecting everyone else. To make matters worse, this cultural group is likely going to end up needing heath care and not having insurance, needing governmental assistance and not having a job, and possibly needing incarceration because of crimes committed. All of these are paid for by the tax payers.
The frustration about this is it could be easily corrected if parents of these people actually gave a crap about teaching them right from wrong, good from bad, and the minimum social norms that I listed above. Now, the kids that this cultural group has is likely to follow in their parents footsteps and cause further problems within their communities.
I don’t think that deciding who is president or governor is going to matter. The federal government can’t balance it’s check book. While I think that this a local and at most a regional issue, I don’t know what can be done. While we can force kids to be in schools, we can’t force them to learn and we can’t force them to care. It causes a mix of emotions that range between anger and being sad for these people. But one thing is evident, they demand respect, but they don’t respect them selves or their cultures.