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    Super Moderator luckless pedestrian's avatar
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    Happiness tanking at 44?

    Considering I turn 44 this October, this article was depressing -

    but I ask - do you think this research is real? do you think happiness is something you are pre-disposed to?

    http://www.time.com/time/health/arti...721954,00.html

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    Again I remind all Cyburbians of the tune from the corny old TV program, "Hee-Haw"....."Gloom, despair, and agony on me, whoa....."

    OK, this Bear is relatively happy. The gloom set in when I read the thread title......and considered......

    I would be very happy if I was 44.

    Katie turns 45 in a couple weeks. Now she's the one in my family with all the despair.

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    I think happiness comes easier for some than others even when the circumstances are relatively the same.............yes it is genectics. I for the majority of my life would wake up everyday brimming with happy. Once i turned 40 it became a stuggle, still is but I working on it big time!!! and it is becoming easier and I do have those moments when the tears of joy do flow!!
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    I find it to be pretty true for me.
    “As soon as public service ceases to be the chief business of the citizens, and they would rather serve with their money than with their persons, the State is not far from its fall”
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    I guess the research, or the act of researching this, is real. I don't know how I feel about being predisposed to happiness.

    I think that being happy is a choice, and I try to be happy. And I'm beyond 44.

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    That will be 7 yrs ago and I still believe I happy.
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    Why don't you knock it off with them negative waves?
    Why don't you dig how beautiful it is out here?
    Why don't you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?
    From Kelly's Heroes (1970)


    Are you sure you're not hurt ?
    No. Just some parts wake up faster than others.
    Broke parts take a little longer, though.
    From Electric Horseman (1979)

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    Cyburbian ofos's avatar
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    I was happy at 44 but maybe that was because I still remembered how unhappy I was at 34. I'm well beyond 44 now and still pretty satisfied with life in general. Trying to fight my way through that "research" article threatened to suck the life out of me though.
    “Death comes when memories of the past exceed the vision for the future.”

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    I was miserable at 44. Divorced, single mom, soccer coach, cub scout leader, paying for private school, night meetings out the a$$. It was exhausting, to say the least. About the time I switched to a much less stressful planning job. Worked wonders.

    Now I'm 50 and life is fine.

    Happiness is half state of mind, and half where you go in life. And that stuff about the glass half full. I'm a glass half empty person but I'm being persuaded to the half-full. Being happy day to day makes the difference.

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    I turned 45 this year, and in many ways I am happier now than I have ever been.

    A book I highly recommend, because it changed the way I think about the concept of happiness, is Authentic Happiness by Dr. Martin Seligman. Seligman, a former president of the American Psychological Association, is well known in his chosen field (psych majors may recall his research on learned helplessness). More good stuff here.

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    Cyburbian Michele Zone's avatar
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    Last night I was tempted to make a smartassed remark that "This article is Good News: I can blame my constant bad mood on my age!" (I'm 42, will be 43 in June.)

    But today I'm in a better mood. A good night's sleep is a wonderful thing.

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