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    Roscoe

    It has probably been over a year since I shared stories about Sukros, one of our two dogs. At the time I meant to follow up by writing about our other dog, Roscoe, but never have done it. So I would like to share him with you now.

    Roscoe, Roscaroonie, The Roscinator, Big Dog, My Buddy, My Pal, My Shadow. They say that dogs are a man's best friend. There is no doubt that Roscoe is my best friend. Both dogs were my fiance's before I came along. While both love me, Roscoe claimed me as his human. He was so happy to have another male in the household. We bonded.

    He lays outside the bathroom door waiting for me to finish showering, and when I do he loves to lick my legs. If he is not around I simply have to call out "legs" and he comes bounding up the steps. He is with me most of the day, laying on the floor by my desk. It works out for us both. He gets to lick the egg off my plate and gets plenty of petting, and I get to have his calming presence nearby. I think he actually helps me work better. At night he goes upstairs with me, hops into bed, and curls up behind my legs. Roscoe is a snorer. It is really cute, a soothing, kind of funny sound that always makes us smile. At times he will dream and bark in his sleep, one of only three times when he does.

    Another time he barks - yipes, really, is when he does not want us to do something. Usually this means a brushing. His hair tends to tangle and the brush can sometimes pull at it. Of course he makes it seem much worse than it is. One time we took him to the vet and he just started screaming like they were torturing him. He cracked up the ladies who work there.

    A few years ago we discovered that Roscoe loves tummy rubs. When he sees me coming his tail will begin to wag. If I get down on the floor next to him he will often roll over, pawing and squirming when I stop in the hopes that I will continue. Especially at night when we go to bed I will lie next to him and cuddle as I rub his tummy. He loves that.

    When we come home or anyone comes over he has to have a toy in his mouth. He will search one out and come on over with his tail and his whole rear end wagging. He is very fond of a rawhide and of stuffed animals. He seems to have some favorites, including a lobster we picked up in Maine a couple years ago. My office is a depository for many of these toys as he carries them in when he spends time with me.

    One of our favorite games is when I hold a toy just out of his reach. At first I used to hold it up and run around with it as he chased me, jumping up on the couch to get closer. Then I also started dragging it along the floor as he chased, grabbing at it with his paws. He is so happy once he catches it. I call him my lightning bolt and say how fast he is. He wags his tail. Lately he has added a new dimension to this play. When I try to get the toy back, he keeps it from me, moving just out of my reach as I grab for it.

    He is an extremely intelligent dog, and the first to learn new things, like how to eat off a fork, how to crawl across the floor, and how to get the peanut butter out of a pong. He sniffed the treats we left for them under the Christmas tree and it was so cute to watch him tear at the tissue until he got them out. We put more under the tree for a couple days.

    Roscoe loves to chase the squirrel. If we see one we will say "squirrel!" - we could whisper it - and both dogs will come running, Roscoe yipping madly. A little before lunch today I saw a squirrel in our bird feeder. Both dogs came running when I called, and Roscoe tore out the door, ran across the patio and leapt over the piles of snow up to the fence.

    As he got back to the patio he suddenly stumbled, then collapsed onto his side, whimpering just a couple times as I ran over and picked him up.

    My best friend died in my arms this morning.
    Anyone want to adopt a dog?

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    Cyburbian Emeritus Chet's avatar
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    Oh no. So sorry to hear that.

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    I'm so sorry but thank you for sharing about how much he meant to you

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    I'm so sorry. This is such a sad day for you, and I know you will miss Roscoe. You were lucky to have each other.

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    So sorry about the loss of your best friend. Like LP said, thank you for sharing your story, it was beautiful to read.
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    That is so sad. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's good to know that your dog led a great life and you have such fond memories to look back on and that you had such a wonderful friendship.
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    I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like Roscoe had a blessed life with you. RIP Roscoe!
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    I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Having lost all four of our pets in the last year, but especially the dogs who had other names but were called "Buddy" and "Little Bud", I know how badly you must feel. Hang in there, it does get better.
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    I'm so sorry to hear about Roscoe. How old was he?

    The story made me seek out my dogs and give them big hugs.
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    Trying to look at the bright side here...he died happy, doing what he loved. Though it might have been easier on his daddy if he'd suffered a long, inevitable illness.

    RIP Roscoe.

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    What a beautiful tribute to your friend... I'm so sorry for your loss, Cardinal.

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    Can't reaaly say more than what's been said. Cardinal, I'm sorry for your (and the family) loss.
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    Your story made my eyes tear up. I'm so sorry for your loss, Cardinal. Roscoe will definately be missed.
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    Thank you for all of the thoughts. Cecilia and I are taking it very hard. Although he was the older of our two dogs, nearly twelve, we thought he would be around for a few more years. He was slowing down but had such great energy. The vet said he was in excellent health, except that one side of his heart had thickened. It is likely that it suddenly stopped beating. I am glad I was there with him and that he died doing something he loved. Still, losing him is heart-breaking.
    Anyone want to adopt a dog?

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    Dogs really are like your children and best friends rolled into one. They don't judge, love you unconditionally, and are always there for you until the day they die. Sorry to hear of your loss. I had to watch as my first dog (and first pet) that my wife and I got just after we were married got run over by a car last year and I think it's the most distraught I've ever been in my life. It will get better, though, and you'll always have great memories.
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    How sad, I'm sorry for your loss. Dogs' lives are so tragically short.
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    Cardinal, so very sorry. It's so hard to lose a dog that gives you such unconditional devotion and joy. My heart goes out to you.

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    So sorry to hear this Card. I know my dog is like my kid, I would/will be crushed when she is no longer with me.
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    Sending out my sincerest regards to you and your wife. I love my black lab dog, Rory, like one of my kids (probably more!!). Don't let anyone diminish the sorrow you must feel because it was your dog....dog owners everywhere know exactly how sad and bereft you must feel.

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    I feel for you. I have a dog with pretty major medical issues (uncontrollable severe seizures that often progress into status epilepticus) and have had to come pretty close to having him put down. This last time, it came so close that I actually wrote my goodbye letter to him to try and get all of my emotion out so I could help support my wife more and "do the deed," as I knew she would probably be histerical after he died. He really wasn't himself any more--completely crazed, tail down, not eating. My wife made one last trip to vet to see if he had any other ideas (this has been about a four year battle). The vet made a few phone calls to veterinary neurologists who suggested another relatively new medication in combination with the others. Luckily, this additional medication the vet put him on seems to have helped. Then again, we've had quiet spells like this before.

    I've never been attached to a dog quite like I am to this one. He was the first big thing we got after we got married, and he is like a son to us. We take him pretty-much everywhere and his favorite spot is sitting between us on the couch.

    It sounds like you had a similar relationship with your dog. I know, based on my close calls with this one, that it must feel like somebody ripped the heart out of your chest.

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    Thank you for sharing this with us, Cardinal. I can't imagine it was easy to write, but it's a very fitting tribute. The only comfort I can offer is that it happened the way it should... Roscoe died in the arms of his loving best friend, and you had at least a moment to say good-bye. I know Shadow will be getting lots of hugs and petting when I get home, even if he's made a mess or pushes me out of the bed. I wish you the best, and remember that the horrible pain you feel is a result of all the love and friendship you got to share.
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    Sorry for your loss, Cardinal. Yes, my family has experienced the same pangs of loss. Your description of Roscoe was priceless. Cherish those memories.

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    I don't have much to add. This thread encouraged me to look back at an email from my youngest son from last April. He lost the dog he cherished and it broke my heart. I don't dare post his email and my response. Enough tears have been shed here.
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    Thank you all. It has been hard to look at this thread sometimes, but your words and thoughts have helped.

    About an hour before he died I had gotten up from my desk to get something from another room. Roscoe was laying on the floor in front of the desk when I came back. He wagged his tail as he often did when I came near. I teased him and said "So you think all you have to do is wag your tail and I'm going to pet you?" Of course I got down on the floor and did. I told him he was the best and rubbed his ears for a bit. As I got up I leaned over, kissed him on the forehead, and told him I loved him. I think that was the last time I touched him until I picked him up as he was going.

    Some time after, as we were leaving him behind at the vet, I leaned over and whispered "We'll play again." I believe that any sentient thing, any animal that can feel love and give love, is going to be part of whatever comes when we pass away.

    This past summer I was driving through upstate New York and listening to NPR. A guest on the show told a Native American story. In a nutshell, when we die we begin our journey to heaven. Along the way we come to a bridge. On the other side is every dog we have known in our lives. If we were good to them they will escort us the rest of the way. If we mistreated them we will never get across the bridge.

    I imagine Roscoe standing on the other side of the bridge with his tail wagging happily. I can see him racing to me, fast as a lightning bolt, ears and hair blown back, and a look of joy on his face, just as he used to do when we would run in the yard or down to the mailbox.
    Anyone want to adopt a dog?

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    ^^ Yep, the "rainbow bridge."

    During my own losses I've found it helpful to make shrines (photos and artifacts), put up web pages (my mama's is still up, and it's been a decade), and record memories. I've cherished every sympathy card.

    My brother lost his beloved dog one fall [kicks off shoes...1992], and a couple months later my favorite sister-in-law and I were looking at holiday ornaments. I picked up a tiny glass dog bone and suggested she acquire it, write the dog's name on it, give to bro. She did. I'm sure he cherishes it.

    Your narratives are a treat to read. I am recalling how my father had my old (almost 21) cat put down while I was out of town, and I never got the chance to say goodbye. (Not to mention how he criticized me for taking pictures of her. I wish I'd taken more.)

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