A thread in another forum recently degenerated into a string of personal attacks. This is not the first time, and it got me to wondering why. On the one hand, we have to admit to somtimes being a little discouraging related to planning as a career. On the other hand, the people asking for advice often do not want to hear honest answers.
In the particular thread to which I referred, the original poster did not want to hear anything that countered his idea that he could find a good planning job doing exciting work, where he simply had to show up, work a 37.5 hour week, and go home. Everyone who suggested otherwise was ridiculed and accused of lying or not knowing what they were talking about. He was probably about the worst we have seen here on Cyburbia in this regard, but certainly not the only one who refused to listen to advice. What is it that makes people unwilling to listen? Is it a fear that they may not get everything they want from work and life? That they have spent 4+ years and thousands of dollars and still may not have the promise of a job? That their departments or others are filling their heads with contrary notions?
I wonder, too, if it is the way in which the advice is offered. Many of us have been dealing with a string of hard years as the economy has tanked, we have had pay freezes or cuts, or become unemployed. Even before, we were often dealing with excessive workloads that had us logging long hours. That strain can come through in some of the advice we offer. Perhaps we are not offering rose covered glasses, but smoked ones that turn things gray instead.
Please confirm my opinions. If you disagree, please explain why you are wrong.