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    Facebook: balancing social and professional facets [split from RTDNTOTO]

    Well, I just befriended practically my entire workplace on Facebook - colleagues, board members, councillors, even the city manager. I guess I'll have to view them more as actual people now instead of professional colleagues. Part of me is already regretting this... should I?

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    Quote Originally posted by TexanOkie View post
    Well, I just befriended practically my entire workplace on Facebook - colleagues, board members, councillors, even the city manager. I guess I'll have to view them more as actual people now instead of professional colleagues. Part of me is already regretting this... should I?
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    Quote Originally posted by TexanOkie View post
    Well, I just befriended practically my entire workplace on Facebook .....
    Part of me is already regretting this... should I?
    Just being at work is like being on FB for 40 hrs, isn't that enough ?

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    I figure Facebook is both a social and professional network - otherwise I doubt I've have over 500 friends (Lord knows I don't have that many actual friends). It'll be handy to keep in touch with some people as I get closer to my grad school plans coming to fruition.

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    If you're going to use Facebook for social and professional networking, you'll have to be much more cautious about what you post, IMHO. Don't forget to check your privacy settings and adjust them if necessary.

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    Bad idea. Just because you are friendly with those people doesn't mean you should consider them friends - even if it is in the ultra low friendship threshold environment of facebook.

    I have 2 facebook accounts. One is work me, where I am the admin for our organization's fanpage. Coworkers, community people, my board, council, etc can friend me there. I rarely post anything there. It's just the way I use to run my fan page. The other account is real me. Where old friends, fraternity brothers, family, etc can see my stupid posts of movie quotes, updates on weird neighbors, or the latest antics of my dog.

    And never shall the 2 meet.
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    I haven't tried to friend anyone I currently work with/for on FB. Several of my former coworkers are friends, but only one current coworker. And that's only because when I accepted her friend request, she and I were in separate locations. Now we're both downtown, and sit 20 feet from each other.

    FB is for social stuff, not work stuff. I like michiganplanner's plan on two pages, but I don't see the need for me - I don't have a fan base!
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    I am friends with a number of work colleagues on FB, but not all. But i don't mention anything about work on FB- ever. My page is private, but i dont have cause to believe anything on my page would be embarrassing or would cause me employment issues in the future.
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    If anything, I can understand friending staff members who you really get along with or whatever, but I think you're kind of pushing the envelope by friending council members, the city manager, and whatnot. If you feel you would leave these people out by friending only certain staff members, then I guess it's better not to friend anyone at all.

    I figure Linkedin is a better place to add the professional colleagues. Facebook is just too risky. Even if you keep your profile clean and boring and free of anything that may stir up controversy, what if one of your friends posts a picture or something on your wall while you're away that could cause trouble? You may have done nothing wrong, but someone could at any time say something that suggests otherwise, and it could create a dicey situation.

    As for now, I don't know if I would just de-friend everyone, since they might take that as a slight. Probably the better thing to do now is just be ready for damage control at any time.
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    I am FB friends with two people out of my 50+ person division. I only friend a co-worker if we legitimately hang-out after work, etc. I've friended most of the Cyburbians that I've met in person or feel like I know well because of activity on the site. I've also friended a couple of planning consultants I've worked with in the past, but that was because we became legitimate friends during our work together.

    I friended a couple of Councilmembers, but that was only after I was no longer employed by the city and only because we work together in a couple of community organizations/charities.

    I'm generally cautious about everything I post/do on facebook because even though I use it for social purposes, I know some little brainiac will eventually figure out how to hack the system to show perspective clients/employers without going through the "friending" process. I've made the mistake of posting a couple of work-related issues/vents, and now stay away from that. There's nothing quite like having mom chime in on something like that.

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    My community won't accept that Facebook is a good way to garner community support. Which annoys me. We are all banned from Facebook at work, so I don't believe that I have to pretend to be anyone's Friend.

    Facebook is trouble for the work life. Unless you work for a beer distribution company or marketing firm, I would keep Facebook out of your professional life. Not worth the trouble.
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    I've done my best to stay away from coworkers et al on FB. I am only friends with 1 coworker, from a different department who I am friends with in real life. When work people ask I just say I like to keep my personal and professional life separate. Plus I don't want to be harassed by a board member because I didn't help out on his farm!

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    I don't have a facebook page because those that need to know what I'm doing call me or I call them. I don't need to post it to the world.

    Saw a friend get burned with a FB picture and it wasn't pretty. Careful with the company folks.
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    Just have good privacy settings, don't allow people that aren't 'real' friends to view any photos, status updates, etc without you express consent. I put all of these people in a group and only allow them to see appropriate content.
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    I had a fear of this long ago. I only added people from my high school to facebook. It was set-up exclusively as a way to get reunions organized. I will not add anyone else to it. I am always amazed at the number of people who post stupid crap on it about how drunk they got last night, complaining about the place that fired them.... I never post that sort of stuff, it can come to bite you on the butt. Facebook ain't all its cracked up to be.
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    Quote Originally posted by TexanOkie View post
    Well, I just befriended practically my entire workplace on Facebook - colleagues, board members, councillors, even the city manager. I guess I'll have to view them more as actual people now instead of professional colleagues. Part of me is already regretting this... should I?
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    I've put most of my workplace/community contacts on my "Limited Profile" list, so they can't see my wall, my photos, or my personal information other than my contact information and work history.

    Not that I had anything I was too worried about them seeing, other than a lot of shared National Review articles.

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    Quote Originally posted by TexanOkie View post
    I've put most of my workplace/community contacts on my "Limited Profile" list, so they can't see my wall, my photos, or my personal information other than my contact information and work history.

    Not that I had anything I was too worried about them seeing, other than a lot of shared National Review articles.
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    Quote Originally posted by illinoisplanner View post
    If anything, I can understand friending staff members who you really get along with or whatever, but I think you're kind of pushing the envelope by friending council members, the city manager, and whatnot. If you feel you would leave these people out by friending only certain staff members, then I guess it's better not to friend anyone at all.

    I figure Linkedin is a better place to add the professional colleagues. Facebook is just too risky. Even if you keep your profile clean and boring and free of anything that may stir up controversy, what if one of your friends posts a picture or something on your wall while you're away that could cause trouble? You may have done nothing wrong, but someone could at any time say something that suggests otherwise, and it could create a dicey situation.

    As for now, I don't know if I would just de-friend everyone, since they might take that as a slight. Probably the better thing to do now is just be ready for damage control at any time.
    Not only that, but at least here in Wisconsin, if the elected governing body of your municipality has only three seats, two of those seat holders (a quorum) randomly bumping into each other on a sidewalk and exchanging 'hello' could be nailed for holding an illegal meeting of that governing body, the state's 'Open Meetings' law is so strict. Most township boards in the state expanded themselves to at least five seats over the past couple of decades because of that. I don't know if it has been legally tested yet, but I could see where a circle of FB 'friends' where over half of them are on the city council could violate that law.

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    Quote Originally posted by TexanOkie View post
    Well, I just befriended practically my entire workplace on Facebook - colleagues, board members, councillors, even the city manager. I guess I'll have to view them more as actual people now instead of professional colleagues. Part of me is already regretting this... should I?
    I would never do this, under any circumstance, regardless of the privacy settings. Use LinkedIn for professional social networking.
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    Would anybody go as far as blocking their co-workers ?

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    Quote Originally posted by JNA View post
    Would anybody go as far as blocking their co-workers ?
    I have just stayed off of Facebook. I'm probably wrong, but what do you think the shelf-life is anyway? MySpace found a nitch with music, but Facebook will give way to some other social network site anyway and all that will remain is unintended searchable crap popping up in the future. Cyburbia and LinkedIn are as far as I go I think.

    It's not that I don't see the social value there, I just don't like what comes with it. I have to pass.
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    My friends list is a mixture of my ultra-conservative-barely-spoke-a-word-to-me-in-high-school classmates, professional colleagues, and real friends (Cyburbians fall into this category ). The only things I really filter are apps like Farmville and Mafia Wars, where I only post to those I put on the specific lists.
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