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    Chairman of the bored Maister's avatar
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    Opposites attract

    They say opposites attract (yeah, and the same "they" also claim birds of a feather flock together), but how often do you find this to be true in relationships? There are a host of ways one can differ from their partner and I suspect the vast majority of relationships are various degrees of 'alikes' and 'not alikes'. Couples can vary in terms of physical stature, religious or political beliefs, communication styles, ethnic background, optimism/pessimism, or mental/emotional 'levels' to name just a few.

    How are you opposite from your current or former SO's? What is the most 'opposite' relationship you were ever involved in?

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    Quote Originally posted by Maister View post
    They say
    Who???
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    Children in the back seat can cause accidents - and vice versa.

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    Quote Originally posted by imaplanner View post
    Who???
    ....
    Off-topic:
    You must be one of 'them'. Because everyone who is one of 'us' knows exactly who 'they' are.

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    My wife and I are different - she is introverted, I am extroverted. I am ugly, she is pretty. She likes to read the book, I like to watch the movie. She hates cooking, I love the cooking network. I budget every penny, she writes a check and doesn't track who it was to or how much it was. She is smart, and I am a planner

    We have a lot of differences, but we share common hobbies (running, gardening, remodeling), likes (sports teams, style, color palette), and morals. We also agree on how to raise our kids.

    I think the smaller, insignificant things are what make the relationship fun. If she liked everything I liked and never questioned me or made me live outside my box, it would get boring. (Then again I wouldn't ever have to argue about why no one should see Twilight...) We agree on all the big ticket items, which makes it work in my opinion. Opposites when it comes to deal breakers... well that's a deal breaker.
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    I have an outy and my wife has an inny.
    Children in the back seat can cause accidents - and vice versa.

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    I've always heard opposites attract for non-important issues but for the big ones you really need to be on the same page to make it work. Big issues include child rearing, life expectations, budgets, etc.

    I love finances and investments and my wife doesn't know how much we make nor does she care. I need to be organized and she has organized chaos. I treat my dogs like children and she reminds me they are just animals. I exclusively watch educational programs and she thinks most of them are boring.
    I burned down the church to atone for my transgressions.

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    Quote Originally posted by imaplanner View post
    I have an outy and my wife has an inny.
    Debate closed! "They" are right.
    "...I would never try to tick Hink off. He kinda intimidates me. He's quite butch, you know." - Maister

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    Quote Originally posted by imaplanner View post
    I have an outy and my wife has an inny.
    Good God!!

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    Where my partner and I differ most significantly is our preferred climate.
    I am a moderate climate lover, give me seasons, autumn, spring flowers, cold months in which to cuddle and wear wool! She hates the cold with a passion.
    She prefers the tropics, hot days, warm oceans, constant summer... and I hate sweating... hate sweating... hate sweating...

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    Compare and contrast....

    ZG was born in Florida.
    I was born in California.
    We both have innies.
    ZG was born with a silver spoon in her mouth (her father a hot-shot attorney in Orlando).
    I was born solidly middle class (my dad was the postmaster when he retired).
    ZG attended a private college in New England and then a big public university in Florida.
    I attended a small public university in California.
    ZG is nearly a foot shorter than me.
    We're nearly the same age (born about 5 months apart).
    We don't particularly care for each other's "special" cooking recipes--but we both enjoy cooking (example: she doesn't like my lasagna, I don't like her meatloaf).
    We both like barbecue--year 'round.
    ZG won't eat seafood. I eat it every chance I get.
    ZG likes channel 13 local news.
    I like channel 7.
    I sleep on the left side of the bed, she sleeps on the right.
    We both like going to the beach or hanging out by the pool.

    There is plenty more and perhaps she'll add to the list....
    Annoyingly insensitive

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    Quote Originally posted by RichmondJake View post
    ZG
    We both have innies.

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    Children in the back seat can cause accidents - and vice versa.

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    Quote Originally posted by imaplanner View post
    Quote Originally posted by RichmondJake View post
    ZG
    We both have innies.


    ...........
    Could it be – that RJ missed a double-entendre? ...

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    Quote Originally posted by imaplanner View post
    I have an outy and my wife has an inny.
    Sheesh, I would hope so!
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    I'm standing right here Mr. Destiny
    If you want to talk well then I'll relate
    If you don't so what cause you don't scare me

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    Quote Originally posted by RichmondJake View post
    ZG was born in Florida.
    I was born in California.
    We both have innies.
    ZG was born with a silver spoon in her mouth (her father a hot-shot attorney in Orlando).
    I was born solidly middle class (my dad was the postmaster when he retired).
    ZG attended a private college in New England and then a big public university in Florida.
    I attended a small public university in California.
    ZG is nearly a foot shorter than me.
    We're nearly the same age (born about 5 months apart).
    We don't particularly care for each other's "special" cooking recipes--but we both enjoy cooking (example: she doesn't like my lasagna, I don't like her meatloaf).
    We both like barbecue--year 'round.
    ZG won't eat seafood. I eat it every chance I get.
    ZG likes channel 13 local news.
    I like channel 7.
    I sleep on the left side of the bed, she sleeps on the right.
    We both like going to the beach or hanging out by the pool.

    There is plenty more and perhaps she'll add to the list....
    You never said you don't like my mom's recipe for meatloaf! And when I was single, I slept on the left side of the bed!

    I have thick hair. RJ doesn't.
    I use moisturizer; RJ doesn't. So, I have very few wrinkles.
    I like classic rock and X-mas music. RJ listens to headaches.
    I like ranch. RJ likes blue cheese.
    We share some favorite authors but not many.

    I am a GATOR. RJ's alma mater doesn't have a football team. Nuff said.
    Last edited by Zoning Goddess; 06 Oct 2010 at 10:01 PM. Reason: gator stuff

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    Mixed marriage here - my wife is Microstation, I am AutoCAD.

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    Mme. Tranplanner est une belle fille de la nouvelle France. I'm an anglo devil (maudit anglais).

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    Quote Originally posted by Tranplanner View post
    Mme. Tranplanner est une belle fille de la nouvelle France. I'm an anglo devil (maudit anglais).
    Remind me to stay away from TO during Hockey Night in Canada.
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