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    Chairman of the bored Maister's avatar
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    When it feels like somebody else's home

    btrage's comment about living out of boxes on RT just reminded me of when we first moved in to our current abode. For the first several weeks there was a distinctly alien feel to the place as if we were living in someone else's house. Even though the place had been thoroughly cleaned from top to bottom there was still this sort of 'hmmm, did that food just touch the countertop' questioning taking place in the back of my mind. The first few mornings I woke up taking a few seconds to collect where I was. There were parts of the house did not feel like 'mine' even after living there 6-8 months.

    Anyone else experience this? How long before your home felt like 'your home' to you?
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    Quote Originally posted by Maister View post
    btrage's comment about living out of boxes on RT just reminded me of when we first moved in to our current abode. For the first several weeks there was a distinctly alien feel to the place as if we were living in someone else's house. Even though the place had been thoroughly cleaned from top to bottom there was still this sort of 'hmmm, did that food just touch the countertop' questioning taking place in the back of my mind. The first few mornings I woke up taking a few seconds to collect where I was. There were parts of the house did not feel like 'mine' even after living there 6-8 months.

    Anyone else experience this? How long before your home felt like 'your home' to you?
    It only took me about 2 hours after closing for our house to feel like ours. That was when I knocked over a ladder and spilled a can of blue paint on the white carpet in the master bedroom. I remember thinking to myself, "Well, it's ours now..."
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    We've been in our current home for about 6 weeks. I'm just starting to feel like it's ours, after we painted several rooms and started putting artwork on the walls. I still don't feel comfortable walking around in the dark, though, and once in awhile I'll see something unfamiliar that's part of the house and have to ask my husband, "What's that [cord, light switch, other unrecognized item] for?"

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    I've been in my current place for about 12 months. It still feels like someone elses home. This is mainly because of the hideous sunshine/mustard yellow paintjob that was rolled on over switches, electrical outlets, cold air returns..... It is also due to the touch up work that was done on the white walls that were orginally flat, but the previous owner touched it up with semi-gloss, poorly spackled holes, and other things that are just too bizarre to handle all at once. I did however get the new carpet in before I moved in (I am a wood floors guy, but this home never had them). In short the list of stuff to make it mine is bigger than my budget, and I am not one to charge things if I don't have the money set aside to pay off the bill.
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    Other than my current home, we never had that "mine" feel. Everything else was a rental and the last place was a condo. This house however, is a bit different. Something about it makes it feel very personal, but still has that history and character with details that we admire but may never understand the reasoning.

    Yes, the more work we do to the house, the more it feels like ours, but even before we signed the papers, it felt like it was our home... that needed a few decades worth of work...


    Quote Originally posted by WSU MUP Student View post
    It only took me about 2 hours after closing for our house to feel like ours. That was when I knocked over a ladder and spilled a can of blue paint on the white carpet in the master bedroom. I remember thinking to myself, "Well, it's ours now..."
    That is funny. My wife said the same thing when I had just finished changing all the locks within an hour of closing.

    The other things that we did was change all the light bulbs to CFL's and wash everything with either beach or white vinegar.
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    I've been living in my new house for just over a month, and it's at least starting to feel like home to me now. I guess I'm so used to moving around (I've lived in about 24 different places in my 34 years) that I adjust quickly to new places.
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    We've spent 2 nights in the new house so it definitely doesn't have that "home" feeling. However, we're the first people to live in it, so that kind of helps.

    I think it usually takes a year for a house to feel like a home. After having gone through all the seasons, weather changes, holidays, you start to establish memories.
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    I felt right at home when the kid and I moved into RJ's place 5 years ago. Of course, we'd both visited a bunch of times, and I already had hauled a lot of smaller items up when we drove up to visit.

    In our prior house, I felt right at home the first time I walked in with the realtor. Never had that happen before.

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    For 7 years I had the ashes of a beloved pet in a tin box and it moved with me from rental to rental.

    We bought a house in mid-January 2003. I saw a great spot next to a lilac bush. All winter I waited. On a nice Saturday in early spring I dug a hole and put Blackjack's ashes in the ground. I think that is when it felt like my home.
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