I second Gotta Speakup's adjective "thoughtful". I never actually exchanged posts with him, but his patient explanations and gentle humor were all too rare, and not just online either. Very refreshing, and thought-provoking. Definitely gave the impression of being more "teddy" than "grizzly." I only just found out about his passing, and didn't know him personally, so it feels a bit out of my place to send condolences now to his family (or to you, illinoisplanner, on the loss of your father; I am so very sorry), so I've sent up a little prayer, for both the Raczkos and illinoisplanner.
What's not so good is sad-bombing someone months later, in person. "Veloise, I just found out that your mother died, and I'm so sorry for your loss" at a big happy lively contra dance, after the speaker noticed me bouncing around having fun for a couple of hours. Gee thanks, I was having a good time until you reminded me.
I am about to suggest a few of my widowed-too-soon FB friends to Katie.
Bear Up North left us two years ago today. Still remembered and still missed.
“Death comes when memories of the past exceed the vision for the future.”
A few of Bear's favorite places - Home, De Noc, The UP, Loma Linda's and Cyburbia
Why don't you knock it off with them negative waves?
Why don't you dig how beautiful it is out here?
Why don't you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?
From Kelly's Heroes (1970)
Are you sure you're not hurt ?
No. Just some parts wake up faster than others.
Broke parts take a little longer, though.
From Electric Horseman (1979)
Wow, has it only been two years? It seems much longer. I was just thinking about The Bear the other day. In fact, every time I come to Cyburbia, I think of him.