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    Cyburbian Big Owl's avatar
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    I am turning into my dad

    My 13yr daughter wanted distressed jeans that on sale were $90. I tell her that I will give her $20 and if she wanted those pants, she would have to come up with the rest.

    That weekend she spends the night with my parents. My mom buys her the pants but doesn’t say anything to my dad. I go to pick her up, I see the pants, and I ask “so you got the $90 pants?”. My dad just hears $90 pants. He assumes I bought the pants and explains that he buys his pants from a discount department store. He said he never pays more than $20 for them he wears them and figures he gets 100 wearing’s out of them so $0.20 per wearing.

    He then tells me that if he were me he wouldn’t give “his” child more than $20 for a pair of jeans and he says well, there’s a sucker born every minute. I decided to let it go, knowing that it would only be sweeter with age.

    Unknown to me at the time, my daughter made my parents thank you cards for giving her the $90 so that she would be able to buy the $90 pants and letting her keep the $20 her dad gave her, as her dad is a tightwad. Evidently, my mom showed it to them after we left as when I get home I have the following message “son, I admire your restraint as I just found out I am the sucker that bought $90 pants. This crow taste nothing like chicken. Later, Dad.”

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    Quote Originally posted by Big Owl View post
    My 13yr daughter wanted distressed jeans that on sale were $90. I tell her that I will give her $20 and if she wanted those pants, she would have to come up with the rest.

    That weekend she spends the night with my parents. My mom buys her the pants but doesn’t say anything to my dad. I go to pick her up, I see the pants, and I ask “so you got the $90 pants?”. My dad just hears $90 pants. He assumes I bought the pants and explains that he buys his pants from a discount department store. He said he never pays more than $20 for them he wears them and figures he gets 100 wearing’s out of them so $0.20 per wearing.

    He then tells me that if he were me he wouldn’t give “his” child more than $20 for a pair of jeans and he says well, there’s a sucker born every minute. I decided to let it go, knowing that it would only be sweeter with age.

    Unknown to me at the time, my daughter made my parents thank you cards for giving her the $90 so that she would be able to buy the $90 pants and letting her keep the $20 her dad gave her, as her dad is a tightwad. Evidently, my mom showed it to them after we left as when I get home I have the following message “son, I admire your restraint as I just found out I am the sucker that bought $90 pants. This crow taste nothing like chicken. Later, Dad.”
    I love it! ROTFL
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    It is a great story, Big Owl. You can do worse than become your dad!
    "...I would never try to tick Hink off. He kinda intimidates me. He's quite butch, you know." - Maister

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    Great story Owl!

    I recently started turning into my dad when I see Junior pulling the same sh** I did when I was a kid. Talking about the games at bedtime where you come up with every excuse imaginable to be out of bed after lights out (that or delaying lights out). I never understood why dad got Sooooo frustrated with me and why it was soooo important to him that I go to bed when I had to. Now I understand.....

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    Oahhhhh…That’s the Sound My Father Makes

    Gabe Kaplan (Welcome Back, Kotter) had a comedy routine where he'd say "Oahhhhh…That’s the Sound My Father Makes". If you've lived long enough, you'll have heard yourself making those sounds too.
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    With the exception of the comb over, I am okay becoming my father. It is neat seeing my kids take after me. The $90 pants had worn, thread bare holes in them. My oldest daughter caught the leg of her pants on something at school and ripped a small hole in them. She was upset and my youngest daughter tried to console her with "wow, you got a hole that you didn't have to pay for".

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    Wow! That is a great story and a very enterprising daughter...

    My brother and I are often critiquing each other's dad-like foibles. Of course, he did a lot of things right, so the comparisons are not always a sign of repeating the great mistakes of the past. Mostly what I cringe at are the little annoyances that have nothing to do with the measure of a man (or woman, though we are talking about dads). My father had a perpetual tic that manifested itself as incessant throat clearing. It got progressively worse as he aged, but there are times when I hear myself doing the same thing. I don't know if it is physiological or anxiety or what, but when I hear myself or my brother doing it, it sounds like nails on a chalkboard.

    Other things my father did which I find myself doing:

    When a child asks the definition of a word I tell them to go look it up in the dictionary (after which they promptly reach for some electronic device)
    When a child asks "what does XX mean?" I launch into a lecture that touches on socio-economic, biological and historical aspects for something that really only required a three word response.

    As a father now, I see the importance of these kinds of things. I also remember postponing bedtime or lights out to the great frustration of my parents. Now I am the same way. The great circle of life.
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    My father used to do this sigh/head shaking and look down thing. I found myself unconsciously mimicking this very gesture when Junior tried to explain how his bicycle chain ended up on the roof last night.
    People will miss that it once meant something to be Southern or Midwestern. It doesn't mean much now, except for the climate. The question, “Where are you from?” doesn't lead to anything odd or interesting. They live somewhere near a Gap store, and what else do you need to know? - Garrison Keillor

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    Quote Originally posted by Maister View post
    ...when Junior tried to explain how his bicycle chain ended up on the roof last night.
    Classic.

    I repeat the "Hi, Hungry." routine when one of my boys passively tells me 'I'm hungry'.

    I find myself repeating many things my Mom used to say. I am constantly reminding them to 'sit up' when there is unnecessary epic slouching happening.
    I'm sorry. Is my bias showing?

    The ends can justify the means.

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    Quote Originally posted by mendelman View post

    I am constantly reminding them to 'sit up' when there is unnecessary epic slouching happening.
    As opposed to all of those necessary epic slouching sessions?
    People will miss that it once meant something to be Southern or Midwestern. It doesn't mean much now, except for the climate. The question, “Where are you from?” doesn't lead to anything odd or interesting. They live somewhere near a Gap store, and what else do you need to know? - Garrison Keillor

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    The strange thing is I am more like my paternal grandfather than I am my dad. My dad pointed it out when he was visiting and noted that he got flashbacks when I was getting after my oldest for something and since they have the same first name, it was even more so.

    Later that night we talked about it a bit more and found that while there are a few elements where I more like my dad, the majority of my mannerisms and characteristics are more like my Grandfather. The other interesting part of it is for most of my life, he lived about 2 hours away so we did not get to see him on a regular basis. However from birth to 3 years old, I spent crazy amounts of time with him so I wonder if that is the reason why.
    "The alternate domination of one faction over another, sharpened by the spirit of revenge, natural to party dissension, which in different ages and countries has perpetrated the most horrid enormities, is itself a frightful despotism." - George Washington

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    We called my Dad "Stonewall" behind his back. It was not meant in a flattering way. I pray I don't turn into him.
    Batter up!

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    Quote Originally posted by Maister View post
    As opposed to all of those necessary epic slouching sessions?
    I see you understand why I had to put that modifier there.
    I'm sorry. Is my bias showing?

    The ends can justify the means.

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    Too much time has passed (45 yrs) so I don't know or realize if I am or have turned into my father.

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    Quote Originally posted by JNA View post
    Too much time has passed (45 yrs) so I don't know or realize if I am or have turned into my father.
    I'm sorry JNA; that sucks.



    I see my dad in a lot of my everyday but I've actually been seeing him in me more lately. He retired with 28 years from the Federal Government and he kept a notebook with him documenting every conversation that he had with his boss/coworkers. You know -- just in case he ever needed it. I've needed to do that in the last month or so and I always want to call my dad and discuss. He taught me to question authority (except him and my mother, of course); he taught me to cover my butt; he taught me so so many amazing things...
    How do I know you are who you think you are?

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    I'm kind of mellower, not quite so hard core version of my dad. I'm able to work in the system and make some compromises unlike him. He's a neat freak and far better with his hands. Now for the profanity laced driving, yeah. We both channel my grandfather. We've a bunch of stubborn Krauts. Being called a stubborn old Kraut is considered a compliment.:
    When did I go from Luke Skywalker to Obi-Wan Kenobi?

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    Quote Originally posted by Whose Yur Planner View post
    I'm kind of mellower, not quite so hard core version of my dad. I'm able to work in the system and make some compromises unlike him. He's a neat freak and far better with his hands. Now for the profanity laced driving, yeah. We both channel my grandfather. We've a bunch of stubborn Krauts. Being called a stubborn old Kraut is considered a compliment.:
    Kind of like having your Irish temper pointed out. Which, by the way, is much calmer than it used to be.

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