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    Chairman of the bored Maister's avatar
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    Conversation strategies for introverts & the socially challenged

    Scenario: two coworkers are standing at the water cooler talking about the big soccer game or big curling bonspiel last night and ask "Did you see the game, and what did you think about that call at the end?"
    Naturally, you've never watched soccer in your life and think that curling refers to something one does to their hair......how do you respond yet still manage to 'fit in'.... that is, be socially engaging?
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    I have one of two strategies: I will either say something ridiculous and poke fun at myself if I can think of a witty response, or I will just admit I know nothing and say something like, "But if you want to know about how my netflix marathon of House went last night, I'll be happy to fill you in."

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    Quote Originally posted by Maister View post
    Scenario: two coworkers are standing at the water cooler talking about the big soccer game or big curling bonspiel last night and ask "Did you see the game, and what did you think about that call at the end?"
    Naturally, you've never watched soccer in your life and think that curling refers to something one does to their hair......how do you respond yet still manage to 'fit in'.... that is, be socially engaging?
    Just ask which team they are rooting for, smile, nod, and go back to your desk.
    "He defended the cause of the poor and needy, and so all went well. Is that not what it means to know me?" Jeremiah 22:16

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    There was a time at a former job where I had to go to public works several times a week. If I went on Mondays (especially) I would find out who won the NASCAR race that weekend. If I needed a conversation piece I'd say something like "I can't believe (insert driver name here) won." At that point the guys just started piping up and I didn't have to say another word.
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