I have always lived by work, my family has always lived by their work, and my wife has always lived by her work… until now.
My wife and I live in South Miami, a once small town that has been engulfed by Miami. There is a ‘main street’, etc.. and we walk to almost everything. There is even a rail stop here so if we need we take it (when feasible). I have always prided myself on living by work. No commutes, no traffic, plenty of exercise, etc.. My wife is a school teacher and has been teaching a school around the corner, well…
She just took a new job with a Broward County, over an hour (30 miles) away. The position is much better, so it is worth it for her career goals and happiness. But now what do I do? It is not fair for her to drive 2 hours everyday to and from work while I have 5 min walk. If we move mid-way we would each have a 30 min commute, and I could take the rail on days I don’t have to be in the field (ie, need a car). But this would totally compromise my ideals of ‘everything’ I have stood for regarding work commutes. While she took the job on her own, I feel the need to do this since she moved to Miami for me in the first place when she really didn’t want to live here.
Because we don’t have any kids it is easy to move, but this ‘couple’ thing puts a spin on commuting lifestyle. While it is easy for 1 person to live by work (or work by home), it is not so easy for two. I just now understand this (I was just married last summer).
I am not sure what this all means, except for it is time for me to reevaluate some things.