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Confession time....

SW MI Planner

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1) I really don't want to be at work right now. I want to go home and sleep and spend time with Chad (wink wink).

2) I don't really want to hear the sob story your giving me about why your house is trashed and you need grant money to fix it up. I understand your home needs some minor repairs, but it doesn't take money to keep your crap picked up off your lawn.

3) I have a nextel, work issued, and don't mind it. It's better than the stinkin' radios we were supposed to carry before the nextels. What can I say...we are behind the times. But having some way to communicate with other employees is great and I was able to cancel my personal cell phone and use just this one.

4) My dream house - a huge ass house sitting on 50 acres in the middle of nowhere, with a big garage to park my Envoy.

Given some more time, I could think of some more, but this is a start.
 
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Confession time:
1. If I won the mega millions tomorrow night, its safe to say I won't be in to work on Monday.

2. I hate this f***ing cold, and I would also flee the northeast in a heart beat if I could get my entire family to go with me.

3. I feel like I should be eating more organic food, but christ, it is way too expensive.

4. Professional obligation, Schmofessional Schmobligation. Vice President for Programming and organizing our upstate chapter conference totally blows.

I'm sure I can also think of a few others, given time.
 

Chet

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1) I drive a gas guzzling SUV, and despite living a block from a co-worker and 15 minutes from the office, I refuse to car pool.

2) I despise public transportation in its local form. Empty buses circling the City and belching out diesle fumes are a waste of tax payers money IMHO.

3) I have more guns than I need, but fewer guns than I want.


Don't get me started Christine, you won't like the end result! :)
 

NHPlanner

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1. I really don't want to be here again tonight. It seems like night meetings are taking over my life, and that I don't get to spend enough time with my wife and daughter.

2. I'm worried about my wife after our near miss on pregnancy, and that she'll become depressed and that it will affect her health.

3. I have a deep down fear that my wife is not happy living in NH and would leave me if an opportunity arose to move back to Maine (with or without me...and yes, I know this one is slightly irrational).

4. I think that my planning board (certain members) is getting way to condecending and disrespectful to the public and the staff.

5. More later....after I get out of my meeting......I'm catholic, so I've got plenty to confess. :)
 

Jeff

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KMateja said:


3. I feel like I should be eating more organic food, but christ, it is way too expensive.
Ain't it the truth. I was going to get organic eggs last night, but they were $3.50 as opposed to $1.00....

And everything in Freshfields is so pricey....

My confessions:

I hate the suburbs, the people in the suburbs, and everything about the suburbs (I've felt this way long before even knowing what planning is).

My truck gets 15 mpg

I think the duct tape and plastic thing is dumb. I I'm gonna get hit with something I'm going out shootin'

YEE HAW!!
 

The Irish One

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I have a serious crush on a married women at work, I feel like I need to tell her. She knows I like her , I just feel like a creep for having romantic feelings develop with a woman who is spoken for.
 

jmf

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1) I want to be a stay at home mom - whether to the dog and the cat or to a baby. I am tired of spending the weekends cleaning the house and grocery shopping. I want to have time to do stuff for me.

2) I want my husband to get transfered to a job somewhere else just so we can be somewhere else for a while. Connected with this I want to find the perfect renters so we wouldn't have to sell the house and put all of our stuff in storage.

3) I would settle for a fulltime permanent job with flextime which would give me at least one Friday off a month and more than 2 weeks vacation.

4) I want a Suburu Outback, I know its more than we need but...

Why wasn't I born with a Trust Fund????
 

el Guapo

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Mike DeVuono said:
I think the duct tape and plastic thing is dumb. I I'm gonna get hit with something I'm going out shootin'

YEE HAW!!
I'd ride that nuke to downtown Bagdad per Major Kong! Fetch my spurs woman, I'm flying with SAC today.
 

el Guapo

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The Irish one said:
I have a serious crush on a married women at work, I feel like I need to tell her. She knows I like her , I just feel like a creep for having romantic feelings develop with a woman who is spoken for.
Speaking for husbands everywhere: Go find yourself a nice single gal. :)
 

Jen

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Mike DeVuono said:


Ain't it the truth. I was going to get organic eggs last night, but they were $3.50 as opposed to $1.00....

And everything in Freshfields is so pricey....

SO what! How many meals can you get out of that dozen CGO eggs? Aint that worth the price? I pay gladly for the CGO eggs, they are sooooo much better. I can eat egg sandwiches again, fried with tabasco on pita mmmm! I also spend a fiver on organic butter, though I would buy the organic milk but I dont like the paper cartons it comes in. I also get the organic bananas when I can, the thing is at my store they cant keep it stocked!

my confession... I use way too many paper towels.
 

donk

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These won't suprise anyone I know, and a few people here

1) I hate where I live, the city is a hole (both design wise and quality of people wise) that should stop being a group of hind teat suckling piglets at the gov't trough....

2) That being said the area is geographically interesting and somewhat beautiful, if you like the outdoors.





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Repo Man

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1. It drives me nuts that we have invested about $10,000 in ESRI GIS software but won't spend 500 bucks to upgrade my computer to run it.

2. My hard drive on my work computer is filled with illegal mp3s

That is all for now....I need to get out on some site visits.
 

Habanero

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1. I refuse to carpool because I hate to have to turn down my radio in the morning or not be able to stop for coffee if I want to.
2. I really hope James doesn't get me a diamond ring. Yes, I'd like a ring, but I think diamonds look awful on me- too flashy.
3. I flicked another driver off this morning- but he was a complete @$$, so I don't feel too bad.
4. I have a habit of buying more granola and protein powder than I can eat in two weeks, and I usually overspend/under appreciate the organic products at Sprouts.
5. My co-worker is a complete idiot and I hope he trips and scuffs his new shoes.
 
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jmf said:
1) I want to be a stay at home mom - whether to the dog and the cat or to a baby. I am tired of spending the weekends cleaning the house and grocery shopping. I want to have time to do stuff for me.
Why wasn't I born with a Trust Fund????
Sing it sister.

5. Sometimes I secretly wish we'd have triplets, just so I could be a SAHM, because it would be more cost effective than putting them in day care.
 

lowlyplanner

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1. I think you deserve what you got - you bought that house in a brand new subdivision off of the worst road in town, and now you complain about the traffic. Did you go out to look at the place at midnight? That's the only time of the day you wouldn't have noticed the bumper-to-bumper traffic. For the same amount of money, you could have bought a charming 20s bungalow in a real neighborhood, and you'd be downtown in 15 minutes. But you needed a new house. I have no sympathy for you.

2. It's really not a big deal if the Italian restaurant down the street from you wants to serve beer and wine with dinner. In an ideal world, they wouldn't need any kind of exception. Your opposition is based solely on your bizarre religious beliefs and desire to control other people's lives, and not on "property values" or "the children."

I feel much better now. I didn't realize I had that much anger built up from talking to folks in this town.

When do we get "Secret Planner Taxicab Confessions?" Or maybe we should film them in the back of a bus.
 

Repo Man

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2. I hate that an angry mob of neighbors killed a proposal for an upscape Thai restaurant because they thought it would create traffic and parking parking problems, despite the fact that there is already a restaurant there. Now they are in a different city in a strip mall in the middle of nowhere. The thing that gets me is that we did a citywide vision a few years back and people indicated they wanted more upscale resturants.

2. I hate dealing with CBRFs and I hate the way the federal government and the state basically allow them to ignore zoning restrictions.
 
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I'm nearing completion of a hellacious land use study which must be presented to the public before I can close it out. Public meetings were held at the beginning of the study in which there was very little participation. Now, I have a choice of presenting this study at the council meeting which will guarantee some degree of participation or have a separate public meeting inviting residents to comment on the study. I'm leaning towards the public meeting because it is highly likely that no one will show up.
 

nerudite

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1) Although I like Alberta in some ways, if I ever break up with b.f. and my job starts becoming less rewarding, I'd be scouting jobs back in Oregon/Washington in a heartbeat.

2) Depression over the past year has lead to serious weight gain. I joined a gym yesterday to reverse this, but in some ways it's just making me more depressed because now I'm thinking about it all the time.

3) If I could afford an SUV, I would probably buy one. An xterra to be precise.

4) Last night, I found out that my b.f. has never voted in his life. It made me sick to think of someone I love as being so apathetic, and I guess it showed on my face because he got pretty huffy about it. Illogically, I was more upset about this than when I found out that he had cheated on his wife before they divorced.
 

Seabishop

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I also have an undying urge to move my family to some far away gentrified neighborhood (perhaps oversees – maybe Barcelona) although it would be terrible for us in reality.

I don’t really look like a cross between the Rock and Brad Pitt as I said before (more like Dustin Diamond meets Steve from Blues Clues).

I also have constant “negative thoughts” about the community I work for.

After 3 years I still feel like an intern at this job – a professional idealist with no real skills who no one listens to.

I still have teenage fantasies about ditching planning for music.

I’m terrible with money – I only have a vague idea of what banks do and I always pay bills late.

I have watched several episodes of Berman and Berman with my wife.
 

Tranplanner

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I'm not as happy as I thought I would be at this job.

I really don't feel that my input is valued at work.

I sometimes feel that my skills aren't good enough to do the work expected of me, and I feel really dumb sometimes.

I really hate inconsidereate people, and those who do not think about the consequences of their actions.

I like the show "Trading Spaces", and think Genevieve is really hot.
 
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The APM once published a book on this very subject. We paid Anthony Downs $50,000 to write the book called Stuck In Planning. It is available from APM press for $65.

Here are some excerpts from the book regarding what anonymous planners have admitted over the years about their jobs:

1. “New development is what makes the job fun...no one wants to sit at their job and watch something being conserved. That would be stupid.”

2. “I have written reports on several occasions to the Plan Commission recommending approval on something that I professionally didn't agree with. It was done to either get it out of my hair or because the Mayor told me I had to do it.”

3. “Public Hearings are a waste of time. Note to Public: The decision has already been made.”

4. “When we place items on a Plan Commission Agenda 99.9% of the time they are on the agenda for approval not for consideration. What a fallacy!”

5. “Sometimes public employees do milk it just like employees in the private sector.”

Anti-Planner Movement
 

Mastiff

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nerudite said:
1) Although I like Alberta in some ways, if I ever break up with b.f. and my job starts becoming less rewarding, I'd be scouting jobs back in Oregon/Washington in a heartbeat.
I need a secretary...
 

SW MI Planner

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Genevieve *is* hot! She's a fellow midwestern gal. Minnesota me thinks.

Some hot guy was checking me out at a funeral luncheon I just got back from, and I kind of liked it ;) Chad was there and I was jokingly giving him a hard time about it.

At our PC meeting last week on of the commissioners said she really liked my hair cut. Our mayor said "I'm not going to say what I think about it", and then he whispered something to the commissioner. I later asked what he said. He told her that he thinks it's sexy.

Last Saturday, Chad and I and another couple went to dinner and came back and all watched Girls Gone Wild, the Snoop Dog edition.

I have a serious crush on a married women at work, I feel like I need to tell her. She knows I like her , I just feel like a creep for having romantic feelings develop with a woman who is spoken for.
Now *that's* a confession!!
 

kms

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I am a SAHM. My confession - I sat on the couch all morning and talked to my friend on the phone, then went out to lunch while the school was calling to tell me to come pick up a sick kid.

Another - I was doing some part time work for my best friend who works at Farmland Preservation and I think she fired me yesterday, but so gently that she wasn't really clear about it. :) I am a little grateful; it was too hard to go to work because of school delays and sick kids.
 

Dan

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1) The preliminary plat application for a 480 home subdivision landed on my desk a few weeks ago. It's about 3 km removed from any other significant residential development. The street pattern consists of loops and lollypops. Excepting entry features, there's not a square centimeter of open space. The development is contrary to most of our residential development design guidelines, but technically it complies with the zoning code.

The property owner is politically connected, and I'm under a lot of pressure to recommend approval. I also like my job, and I'm still on my initial hire probation. Bah. It'll be 480 $300,000 houses, and the folks living there will be happy.

2) I'm phone-shy. I hate voice mail with a passion, and I have to struggle to hit the flashing "messages" button. Its one of my New Year's resolution to return phone calls within four hours, though.

3) I desperately want to lose 15 pounds ... preferably before Denver. Vain, I know, but still, I'm up to 170 now (5' 10"), and I've growing a a gut. Not good. A girl I had a couple of dates with wants to give me her ex-husband's mountain bike, but I'm reluctant to take it. I really don't think the relationship, if you can even call it that, is at the giving-stuff-to-each-other stage yet, and I'm still going out with other women.

4) I feel guilty, because I've only been at the new job for a couple of months, I'm not too busy, and I'm being entrusted with plenty of goodies that I never had at any other job. Part of me says "I don't deserve this." The Denver conference .. paid for. I've got a "p-card;" a city-branded Visa for official purchases. I've got keys to New City Hall and Old City Hall; and an electronic card that acts as an all-areas pass. I do have a clunky 133 MHz PC, though, which sort of makes up for it.

5) I think the young female planner I supervise thinks I'm a creep. Other folks here seem to like me, but I'm just feeling bad vibes. I don't talk down to her, I don't sneak peeks away from her face (however tempting it may seem), and I invite her to any meetings I have with the public, to give her exposure to different types of projects and to get her input. I don't see her as potential dating material. Still, though, something ain't right.
 
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#6 - I totally thought I would hate being out of work for a week and a half due to the whole gigantic ovaries debacle, but I was SOOOO bummed when I had to go back. I wasn't bored at all, and was totally happy puttering around the house and cooking all day.
#7 - no surprise, i gained 5 pounds in the 2 weeks i was out of work and restricted from exercise, yet cooking three hot meals a day.
 

JNL

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TexasPlanner said:
1. I refuse to carpool because I hate to have to turn down my radio in the morning or not be able to stop for coffee if I want to.
I recently stopped carpooling when my ridesharer moved further away - and I love that I have gone back to turning my stereo up loud and singing all the way to, and from, work! We used to stop and both get coffee.

I am addicted to speeding. Every day when I get in my car I tell myself there's no need to speed, I'm not in any hurry, but then I get into traffic and I have to overtake everyone who's doing less than 110. I'm worried that one day I will pull some crazy manoeuvre on a workmate without realising it, because I take the same route to work everyone else does.

And I work in a place where one of our research areas is road safety, including how to get people to comply with traffic laws......

Also, we do research on how to get people to switch from using their cars and use public transport, walk or cycle instead, but I drive my car to work every day because I choose to live in Welligton instead of the city where I work because Wellington's much nicer, and public transport to where I work sucks. So I don't practice what I preach.
 
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Dan

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Re: But wait! There's more...

JNL said:
Also, we do research on how to get people to switch from using their cars and use public transport, walk or cycle instead, but I drive my car to work every day because I choose to live in Welligton instead of the city where I work because Wellington's much nicer, and public transport to where I work sucks. So I don't practice what I preach.
Same thing here. I work for a rapidly-growing outer ring suburb (~1,200 new single family residences a year!), but live fairly close to downtown Kansas City. When I buy a house here, it'll probably be in KCMO, and I'll reverse commute. The county where I work is one of the wealthiest in the United States, and its municpalities offer a huge range of amenities and services. Public transit, though, is abysmal.
 
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#8 - I use WAY more paper plates and cups than I should. We do a lot of entertaining, big breakfestivals, homemade pizza nights, etc, and we don't have a dishwasher.

Wow - maybe you Catholics are on to something. confession is good for the soul!
 

el Guapo

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Dan said:
The county where I work is one of the wealthiest in the United States, and its municpalities offer a huge range of amenities and services. Public transit, though, is abysmal.
Abysmal? - Dan you're not being sen-sa-tive to my culture. How dare you come in here and judge us!

Now I want you to write "I will not judge a culture by its public transportation choices. I will not impose my values on others - especially people with little natural coloring. I will respect diversity of choice in all its forms. I will seek understanding before seeking to impose my cultural imperialism induced personal prejudices on a vulnerable culture." 1000 times. ;)

Back on topic:

1. I feel like emailing someone. The regulars know what this means.

2. I should buy a newer car, but I can't afford both reliability and safety according to CrashTest.com.

3. I don't care for people that think squeezing volunteers is the way to get more work out of them. Most volunteers have a set amount of time they can offer. Screwing with us and piling the heap with more work will get you an ex-volunteer. And no, it is not the only thing in my life. You would be sad to know where it really ranks.
 
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Repo Man

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I agree with El Guapo. I volunteered to help with some booth at Milwaukee's Irish Fest some years ago. I was 5 minutes late due to traffic/parking and some lady started yelling at me. I was like "um, I am a volunteer, not an employee"....and I never volunteered to help her again.
 

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jtfortin said:
I agree with El Guapo. I volunteered to help with some booth at Milwaukee's Irish Fest some years ago. I was 5 minutes late due to traffic/parking and some lady started yelling at me. I was like "um, I am a volunteer, not an employee"....and I never volunteered to help her again.
You're too nice. I'd have urinated on her leg or something...
 

Repo Man

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Dan said:

5) I think the young female planner I supervise thinks I'm a creep. Other folks here seem to like me, but I'm just feeling bad vibes. I don't talk down to her, I don't sneak peeks away from her face (however tempting it may seem), and I invite her to any meetings I have with the public, to give her exposure to different types of projects and to get her input. I don't see her as potential dating material. Still, though, something ain't right.
Did she apply for the position you hold? That could be the root of this behavior...either that or she really liked whoever was there before.
 

JNL

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Dan said:
5) I think the young female planner I supervise thinks I'm a creep. Other folks here seem to like me, but I'm just feeling bad vibes. I don't talk down to her, I don't sneak peeks away from her face (however tempting it may seem), and I invite her to any meetings I have with the public, to give her exposure to different types of projects and to get her input. I don't see her as potential dating material. Still, though, something ain't right.
Maybe she is attracted to you and you're being so professional about your interactions that she's wondering what's wrong, why you don't seem interested?

Sometimes confusion over feelings can lead people to send mixed signals, that might even seem the opposite to what they're feeling - I know I've been there.

However, it sounds like you're doing everything you can, maybe she just needs to get used to you.
 

PlannerGirl

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lol im not sure i have much left to confess!

i hate my job
ive gotten way too yuppie *trixie* for my tastes but i kinda like it too
i peed on my ex bfs tooth brush *giggles*
 

Dan

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JNL said:
Maybe she is attracted to you and you're being so professional about your interactions that she's wondering what's wrong, why you don't seem interested?
I think she's got a boyfriend (a personal trainer), and besides, she's out of my league. I'm a firm believer that most people date those who are relatively close to them in how attractive society sees them.

Originally posted by jfortin

Did she apply for the position you hold? That could be the root of this behavior...either that or she really liked whoever was there before.
Nope. This is her first planning job. I'm a senior planner; I don't think she has the prerequisite experience needed for the position I hold.
 

Mary Poppins

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1) I hate my sister in law, but tend to be disgustingly sweet around her. Good thing she lives in Kentucky.

2) I will make a seperate meal for my daughter if she doesn't like what I made for dinner...she eats mac and cheese almost every night.

3) I am so tired of getting bad news about our conception attempts that I amseriuosly considering not having anymore children at all.

4) I want to postpone trying to have a child until after summer so I can play softball!!

Nothing real interesting....I am sure if I think some more I can come up with some better ones.
 

el Guapo

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Dan,
If she is dating a "Personal Trainer" then she likely considers guys like you, I and Giff as non-humans. We are not prettyboys with abs of carbon fiber. I have met the type over and over. It is best to just return the indifference. Maybe it is best to just ignore her, unless the job requires some contact.

Are you her supervisor?
 

Mary Poppins

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5) There is a framed picture of prudence in my office!

6) I have a nextel....purchased mainly for work purposes, but also used as a personal cell phone...and I like it! Being able to talk to everyone that I work with whenever I want is extremely convenient.

7) I sometimes blame myself for the death of my ex-bf.
 

PlannerGirl

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ewww im not into the gym type guys-too much effort to keep them intrested in me. im not built like a playboy bunny *or gym bunny* nor do i wish to be

i like "nice guys" not "hot guys"
 

NHPlanner

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Mary Poppins said:
5) There is a framed picture of prudence in my office!
Not on her desk....though she probably wouldn't mind one on her desk....it's on the other secretary's desk....sorry prudence, my wife wanted a printout after she read the real pic thread! :p
 

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El Guapo said:
Dan,
If she is dating a "Personal Trainer" then she likely considers guys like you, I and Giff as non-humans. We are not prettyboys with abs of carbon fiber. I have met the type over and over. It is best to just return the indifference. Maybe it is best to just ignore her, unless the job requires some contact.

Are you her supervisor?

Thanks for the inclusion there EG. :)
 

el Guapo

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Giff,
You, I, and Dan have all had our own personal kitten holocausts.
In the post I meant that we were men of Substance. I only meant it in the most kindly way Sir.

Regards,
EG
 
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