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I have to admit, if there was a personal for a cute girl on a page that I visited, I went ahead and clicked, just to see if she was as cool as she sounded on her introductory sound bite phrase. Didn't get very far, as I was directed to a generic page trying to get me to sign up for a personal. Too much trouble, and I never got much farther.

Okay Cyburbians, how many of you will admit to being a little curious of the cute faces that show up on your favorite web pages?!
 

nerudite

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I have clicked for curiosity... but then I don't think there is anything wrong with the looky no touchy concept.
 
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Being married, I haven't been tempted, but I'm curious to see who has used the powers of hte internet to google an ex.
 

nerudite

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KMateja said:
Being married, I haven't been tempted, but I'm curious to see who has used the powers of hte internet to google an ex.
Plenty of times! I have googled exs that I miss (in a platonic way) and I wondered what was going on with them... and I've googled exs that scare the crap out of me to try to avoid their general location.
 

giff57

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A couple of years ago, all off us in the office and "the office next door" signed up for a dating web site just for fun. I never got any contacts like the ladies did. I could have been because of this:

Searching for: Sex with no strings

I had a bet with my assistant, that I could write the personal and get no contact, I won.

She on the other hand, is dating some she met from that excursion into cyber dating
 

Chet

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After becoming single again, I googled ex's and not only clicked on personals, I signed up. Its not a good concept for me though so I haven't utilitzed it.
 

NHPlanner

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Haven't googled any exes, but met my wife via match.com
 

Cardinal

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I don't really think there are any exes I would care to google. On the other hand, I have also used Match.com. My luck there has been about the same as elsewhere - a few dates and a couple longer relationships - so I guess it isn't too bad.
 

el Guapo

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They all seem excessively young, skinny and shallow in the little ads on the websites I frequent. I believe you should actually meet people the old-fashioned way; you raid and pillage their village and capture their women. I am married and darn it, I’m all caught up and committed to monogamy and all it entails. Not that doesn’t mean I don’t on rare occasion have “lust in my heart.” Propers to Nobel Jimmy C.
 

Chet

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El Guapo said:
They all seem excessively young, skinny and shallow in the little ads on the websites I frequent. I believe you should actually meet people the old-fashioned way;
Bar hook ups!
 

donk

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I've googled a couple of people I used to be close to or had crushes on, more out of curiosity then anything.

As for internet dating, while it has been suggested to me by a few friends I've never tried it and doubt I will.
 

Wannaplan?

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I put a personal on modernhumorist.com a couple of months ago and I finally got a reply... she was "full of life, postive, and looking forward to romantic walks under the stars."

Sheesh! Get real!

Of course, I didn't reply. Not neccessary at this time.
 

Habanero

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NHPlanner said:
Haven't googled any exes, but met my wife via match.com
well, James and I aren't married, and he'd never be my wife, so only mostly ditto. I think it works well in big cities, and you don't have to think "what the hell did that person look like? *roll over* $%*#&GAWDIWASDRUNK@$%&(*&@#!!"

:)
 

Chet

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prudence said:


And what's wrong with that? Some of my best catastrophies were bar hook-ups.
I have three words for that:

BLUE HAIR CHICK!
 

SW MI Planner

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Googled an ex - most definately! I've also googled myself to see what's out there and what someone would find if they looked me up. Surprisingly there was a lot out there, but it's all under my maiden name.

One day I sat around and looked at match.com and stuff to see if there was anyone I knew on there. There were actually three guys that I knew on there. One was my friends ex boyfriend so I sent her the ad as a joke saying maybe they could rekindle the romance ;)
 

nerudite

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bturk said:


I have three words for that:

BLUE HAIR CHICK!
Oh man... are you so hard up you're dating the grannies prudence? You gotta stop dropping by the lounges at the rest home! ;)
 

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Those ads on Salon, The Onion, and so on are REAL. It's from a co-branded online personals site run by Spring Street Networks. The ads are a bit edgy, because SSN is trying to carve out a market niche as being a preferred online personals service for folk who see themselves as hip and urban.

As far as Googling ex-girlfriends goes ... yeah, I'll admit to doing it, and most have online presences in some form. One is an elected official, and you'll find lots of newspaper articles, listings on contact sheets, and so on; we're still very good friends. Another works in the performing arts, and she has a .mov of her talent promo tape online. (No, it's NOT pr0n.) We're not on speaking terms.
 

el Guapo

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I believe the 0 vs the o is to indicate one is opening "wide." I could be mistaken. ;)
 

Chet

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Dan said:
and she has a .mov of her talent promo tape online. (No, it's
I thi k he was clarifying that its a promo tape and not a porno tape....
 

el Guapo

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Tell us more about the transgendered granny Pru-Diddy was gettin' all busy with!
 

Chet

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El Guapo said:
Tell us more about the transgendered granny Pru-Diddy was gettin' all busy with!
On the contrary, she was a 21 year old "goth" waitress we met at a happy hour, and bumped into later in the evening at the Nomad World Pub
 

PlannerGirl

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Jezz i go on the field for the afternoon and this place degrades to talking about bi chicks with blue hair and p diddy didding the grandmas

;-)

I have met and had fun relationships with men i met online

its where i met Scott the current beau
 

prudence

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Blue Hair

She was a cute girl...a bartender...and ELECTRIC BLUE hair. Carpet did not match the drapes...can I say that?? Great tatoos, though.

I was going through a phase...
 

michaelskis

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I don't think that they are that bad

I do not think that online personals are that bad. I have not had all that much luck meeting a woman with elegance and grace at many of the bars, I tryed the on line thing. I have met several women that way, but they are just friends now. (but I did meet this one who is a law student in SC, and she seems to be amazing.

SO unless some one wants to set me up, I am going to stay on line for a while.

OH and not all of them Have Blue hair.
 

PlannerByDay

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I have been know to bowse the online personals and have even considered it. I just got out of a 8 year relationship and have kinda lost my touch with picking up ladies. It is not as easy as it was in college.

I think I will give traditional methods a chance for a while longer. I am a little leary about the whole online thing, but after hearing all your stories maybe, just maybe I give it a shot.
 

michaelskis

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I don't think that she is real

I know that this is a old one, but I now have a statement to make, and to ask if this has happened to anyone?

I put a profile on a page, and got a response from an amazing woman... (or so I thought) She was too good to be true, but she would not give me her # and she would not call me after I gave her mine. She did send me allot of pictures and all, but there was always this since of skepticism about her, and if she was for real.

She was going to come up here to meet me later today, but last night when I was chatting with her on one of the IM programs, she said that she had a Family Emergency and was leaving for that right away this morning... I checked a few things... and I can not even find her name in the student directory for the law school that she goes too.

So if anyone knows of a great woman on the east coast, please let me know... (and make sure that she does have a phone)
 

Greenescapist

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It sounds like she was making up some stuff to try to impress you.

I've had some mixed results from the whole online thing. A few people weren't totally honest with me about what the looked like. A couple of them said they were all into fitness, healthy eating, etc, but when I met them they looked like couch potatoes and were, shall I say, "big boned."
 

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Re: I don't think that she is real

michaelskis said:
She was going to come up here to meet me later today, but last night when I was chatting with her on one of the IM programs, she said that she had a Family Emergency and was leaving for that right away this morning... I checked a few things... and I can not even find her name in the student directory for the law school that she goes too.
That sux man. Was this the girl in Law School at USC? There's got to be at least a few girls in Reading. I've never been, but if there's not, maybe you should head to Philly for a weekend.

One last bit of advise:

If you learn one thing from this, it should be...Never trust a Gamecocks fan. Even if they're cute.
 

michaelskis

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She said that she goes to school in VA, and as for the women in Reading... ah, well, NOPE, not my type. Most of them try to hard to be ghetto, that it make me want to say "GET A LIFE, YOUR NOT IN THE BRONX" I am more into women who have some sence of grace and elegance, not ghetto booty.

I admit I am picky, but this experence has just made that worse.
 

biscuit

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michaelskis said:
I am more into women who have some sence of grace and elegance, not ghetto booty.
It's been my experience that a woman can have grace and elegance, and have a FIIIINNE Ghetto Booty. Now thats a combo you want to find and keep.

I try to be a gentleman so I'll leave it at that. ;)
 

michaelskis

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well, yea that could work. But when the Ghetto attitude is there, that does not work for me.

I thought that that the east coast would be full of prim and proper ladies...

Lets see... Bar Sene, (nope)
Dance Club Sene (nope)
On Line Sene (HELL NO)
where else can I meet women???
 

biscuit

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michaelskis said:
...I thought that that the east coast would be full of prim and proper ladies...
I think we quit making that model years ago. ;)


Mannered? yes. Snotty and Prudish? they're out there. Prim and Proper? don't know any.

Have you thought about joining a civic organization or attending a church with a young singles/post college group. You might have better luck finding the type of women you're looking for in that kind of setting
 
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PlannerByDay

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michaelskis said:
well, yea that could work. But when the Ghetto attitude is there, that does not work for me.

I thought that that the east coast would be full of prim and proper ladies...

Lets see... Bar Sene, (nope)
Dance Club Sene (nope)
On Line Sene (HELL NO)
where else can I meet women???
A couple other suggestions include

the gym, local bikeways or trails, grocery store.

I have had some luck with these. Something new for me is setting up a routine. Such as going to the store or the gym a couple time a week. As soon as you see someone who interests you at the gym or store, say hello and note the time and day. Then go back to the store or gym at the same time the next week and see it that person is there. Say hello again. It has worked best for me at the gym but I am testing the same theory at the store. We'll see how it goes.

Don't forget to ask her if you "thump" the canalope to tell if it is ripe.
 

michaelskis

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Thank you for the info

I love this web site.... It is like gaining a few 100 new friends, who at least have the same work interest at me. I think that I spend more time on here, than I do checking my e-mail!
 

Chet

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JoshD said:
A couple other suggestions include

the gym, local bikeways or trails, grocery store.
gym : seems kinda creepy peeping tom-ish to me

local bikeway : seems kinda jump-out-of-the-bushes-rapist to me

grocery store : absolutely!
 

Seabishop

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Try going to any and all planning related seminars in your area especially if they're in a better nearby city. At least there you'll have something in common with an attractive stranger. Take a career enhancing course if you've got the time and/or $.

When you post on here say positive things about yourself - there are probably single she-planners out there too.
 
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I was just about to suggest the local ADK chapter, but since you don't have the Adirondacks in PA, I would suggest a local hiking/kayaking, outdoorsy type organization. And volunteering attracts TONS of women, usually upstanding types. Big Brother Big Sister is always in desperate need of men, and i'm pretty sure they have the occasional group function. Good luck!
 

michaelskis

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Wow... this thread went from On line personals to help Mike find a woman. (Not such a bad thing) I do belong to a gym, and there are often women there, I will try many of the others. I do attend chruch on a weekly basis, so that might be of help.

What do the Ladies think about this??? What is the best way to meet others.

Oh,.. and as for the Red Wings... Who has how many stanly cups??? True they got there ass kicked... but no one wins every year.
 

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KMateja said:
And volunteering attracts TONS of women, usually upstanding types. Big Brother Big Sister is always in desperate need of men, and i'm pretty sure they have the occasional group function. Good luck!
Yes volunteering works. I was a Big Brother for a while and that organization has to be 80% women, many of them sorority girls getting in their volunteer hours.

And I can vouch for church working big time, as long as it's big enough and isn't completely full of blue-hairs. Check out the programs at different ones around Reading (best is around a college campus if that's your demographic) to see who could best cater to your age group. I meet a couple of young ladies in a church college age group.
Always happy to do the Lords work! ;)
 
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Chet

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michaelskis said:
Come on... I do not have a clueless look... and I have a goatee.
So... are you daring us to fire up the photoshop, or what? ;)
 
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