If you had a chance at a job that is 2X current pay, but it meant moving from near kids, would you?

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A headhunter inquired with me directly. What do I owe the kids? my time? Making sure they are economically secure?

What would you do?
 

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Since I have a history moving away from family, beside the money, would the this job
have improved benefits,
be in a community worth living there for many years - even to retirement,
expand/improve career/job satisfaction
be located as such you could travel back to visit kids - local connecting airport or interstate time
increase stress
major change in lifestyle or cost of living
 
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I am 30 minutes from kids now, this would put me about 2 hours by car away. Not sure on benefits, but I assume equal. It would allow me to work on more urban type issues rather than rural ones. Of course, there is some unknown here.
 

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If it was for a period of time, the pay was right, and the job moved your career forward, I would consider it. It also depends on the kids age, your relationship with them, and your situation.

Good luck!
 
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If it was for a period of time, the pay was right, and the job moved your career forward, I would consider it. It also depends on the kids age, your relationship with them, and your situation.
This. I think the answer is much different if you have kids in elementary school vs if you have high school aged kids (or at least my answer is). My daughters are 7 and 2 and I there's no way I'd take a job at 2x my current pay if I meant I wouldn't be home with them for dinner each night. I am fortunate though that thanks to our situation, I could probably take a pretty big pay cut without it impacting our lives too much but each family's economic situation is different and if we weren't as fortunate as we are, I might give it more serious consideration.

If my kids were older and the new job was 2 hours away I might be more willing to consider it. 2 hours is close enough in the grand scheme of things that if I really needed to be there that evening, I could make it.

All that said, there are some days I'd probably take 0.5x my current pay to get away from my kids! ;)
 
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I should clarify that I am divorced and my ex-wife has primary physical care. I currently have the kids 5 nights out of 14 in a 2 week cycle and am able to go to a lot of their activities, etc. I would lose a lot of that. I am likely not going to do it, but the money is very tempting. I guess I feel I owe them my time more than my money.
 

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I will tell you it's very hard working away from your family/kids as I did it for 6 years and I will never get that time back
 

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I should clarify that I am divorced and my ex-wife has primary physical care. I currently have the kids 5 nights out of 14 in a 2 week cycle and am able to go to a lot of their activities, etc. I would lose a lot of that. I am likely not going to do it, but the money is very tempting. I guess I feel I owe them my time more than my money.
I would never do it. I would rather downsize than give up time with my kids. They are my world, even if I have them every other week.
 
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I am not going to do it, but it tempts me in a sense. Working in a smaller community is where I like working generally, but I admit I do miss out on some of the more exciting stuff going on in more urban areas.
 
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I'm the dad of a toddler, but even if he was older, I don't think I could do it without hollowing myself out inside. There's no exchange rate between the money vs time spent with him once we're all older.
 
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It all depends on location location location. If that higher salary is in a high cost of living city with a excruciating commute, it may not be worth the effort. Always check out MULTIPLE cost of living calculators before relocating to other cities.
 
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