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Richmond Jake

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I finished signing the first set of papers yesterday. I expect the estranged to file them with the court today. In 20 days our 27 year marriage will come to an end. For the rest of my life I'll never understand her taking off with an old hippie, 14 years her senior, with seemingly nothing to offer her.

I'll doing OK, taking things one minute at a time and giving thanks for my 2 teenage sons. Now....shall I click the submit button?
 

giff57

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Sorry dude, I have been through it as has several of us here. Hang in there....
 

PlannerByDay

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RichmondJake,

Sorry to hear things didn't work out for you. There are plenty of folks around here who can understand what your going through.

Take one day at a time, it's gonna better.
 

Chet

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Sorry bud, been there too. There is no easy way except to take one day at a time and heal a little each day.
 

NHPlanner

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Just finished going through it in December....it's not easy, and you really do have to take it one day at a time.....best (and only) real advice I can offer.
 

michaelskis

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Sorry to hear that.

Look on the bright side... being single in this day and age is such a great thing! We live in a society where being single is actually a cool thing these days. The best part is you have two kids. Now instead of worrying about bad things, you can spend more quality time on them, (and scare possible boyfriends)!!! Yet you can still meet new and exciting women, go do new activities that you might not have been able to do in the past… and live each day the way that makes you happy. (Within parameters of the law of course)

I would have to say you have the best of both worlds at your doorstep. Always look for the good in every situation. From many of your past posts, you seem like a bright, fun, and good guy.
 

Tranplanner

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RJ, Can't give you any helpful advice - but there are several (many) here who have been through the same thing before. Here's hoping you have as smooth a transition as possible, and that you find a new avatar candidate in due course.
 

Planner Groupie

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michaelskis said:
Now instead of worrying about bad things, you can spend more quality time on them, (and scare possible boyfriends)!!! .


I think you mean girlfriends since he has two SONS and not daughters.

Hang in there JakeRichmond. Alot of us know what you are going through. My marriage is scheduled to end March 31st and I sometimes still have a hard time believing it.
 

mendelman

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Good Luck!

Hope the business doesn't suffer.
 

Seabishop

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I wish you well dealing with this and hopefully the shock of it will soon pass. Move on as best you can.
 

michaelskis

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Planner Groupie said:
I think you mean girlfriends since he has two SONS and not daughters.


My bad...
BUT... That is even better!!! Take the boys to hockey games... play sports with them...
 

nerudite

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I'm sorry that you are hurting. Take time out to focus on your family... and do something nice and spoil yourself. *hug*
 

Richmond Jake

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Thanks for all your comments, I truely appreciate them. I almost didn't make the post for various reasons.

mendleman the business will suffer; she wants to buy me out but I think the appraisal will come back too high.
Tranplanner "find a new avatar"...thanks for making me laugh out loud for the first time in 3 weeks.
nerudite *hug* back.

Have a great weekend everyone.
 

Rem

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RJ I had noticed you missing after dropping the bomb a few eeks back. Don't be stranger - I doubt will you get as much support or laughs anywhere else as on Cyburbia. Good luck for the next few weeks.
 
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