Joe Iliff
Reformed City Planner
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Ok, so let me explain the situation and ask for your feelings. Help me figure out if I'm being rational about this, or if I'm obsessing about it.
1. Can't stay a present job. Gotta get a new one.
2. Applying to dozens of places, most close to home, a few require relocation.
3. Possibilities:
A: Senior Planner with consulting firm in another state, great job, but requires temporary separation from family (i move first, they follow a few months later). They are not in a hurry to make a decision and I'm competing against lots of other applicants.
B: Only planner for small rural town, requires 1 hour commute each way, pay and benefits not a good as current job, BUT, have been offered position and they are awaiting my decision.
C: Only planner for small suburban town, 15 minute commute, better pay and equal benefits to current job, competing against 4 other applicants, and they won't make a decision for a week or two.
So, right now I'm asking Job B to give me some time to see if Job C will offer me that position. My preference of the jobs are A, C, and B, in that order, but A does not have a schedule for making a decision, and they have many more choices than just me. So, I'm not planning on A working out, it might, but I'm not banking on it.
So, is it OK to ask Job B to wait until I hear from Job C to accept/decline the offer? I've had this happen to me where I offered someone a position and waited for a response as they pursued and then took a better offer. Didn't bother me. Would it bother you if you had to wait on a candidate to pursue a better offer? Would you feel bad about being the candidate's second choice, for them "settling" for you?
1. Can't stay a present job. Gotta get a new one.
2. Applying to dozens of places, most close to home, a few require relocation.
3. Possibilities:
A: Senior Planner with consulting firm in another state, great job, but requires temporary separation from family (i move first, they follow a few months later). They are not in a hurry to make a decision and I'm competing against lots of other applicants.
B: Only planner for small rural town, requires 1 hour commute each way, pay and benefits not a good as current job, BUT, have been offered position and they are awaiting my decision.
C: Only planner for small suburban town, 15 minute commute, better pay and equal benefits to current job, competing against 4 other applicants, and they won't make a decision for a week or two.
So, right now I'm asking Job B to give me some time to see if Job C will offer me that position. My preference of the jobs are A, C, and B, in that order, but A does not have a schedule for making a decision, and they have many more choices than just me. So, I'm not planning on A working out, it might, but I'm not banking on it.
So, is it OK to ask Job B to wait until I hear from Job C to accept/decline the offer? I've had this happen to me where I offered someone a position and waited for a response as they pursued and then took a better offer. Didn't bother me. Would it bother you if you had to wait on a candidate to pursue a better offer? Would you feel bad about being the candidate's second choice, for them "settling" for you?