Chairman of the bored
This is like the definition of a healthy relationship. So long as two parties are fully committed to working out the big stuff together the smaller stuff really just falls into place.As someone that got married fairly late in life (at 38), I'll just say that I tried really hard to force things to work with a large variety of men. But now that I'm married to CCG, there's really nothing to force. Not that everything is perfect all the time or that it isn't work. But whenever we have any issues we have to work out, it's within the context of still both working towards a shared goal. The big things are in place, so when it comes to the small things, we have a framework to resolve anything else that comes up.
I was actually completely at peace with being unmarried when I met CCG. In fact, early on when I met him, I told him I wasn't interested in a relationship (not specifically with him, I just wasn't looking). But I enjoyed being with him and we started hanging out, and it just didn't make sense not to make it a permanent thing.