Cyburbans 🧐 The Allegedly NEVERENDING Budgie Feels Sorry for Himself Thread

[Budgie]

I just turned over a yardful of new leaves today. Don't worry, I'm man enough to not change my username.

No need to reply to this thread.

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[el Guapo]

Do.

Do go on.

Please, tell us more oh cryptic one.

Did you toss the compost pile?

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

Raking outside huh.

 

[Jeff]

Raking outside huh.

you know its bad now

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

you know its bad now

Expecially when I woke up this morning and I had myself a vodka w/aunt rosie's loganberry, beer followed suit.:b:

 

[Budgie]

Do.

Do go on.

Please, tell us more oh cryptic one.

Did you toss the compost pile?

OK, I took a new job and will start December 1.
I'll be running solo and sleeping in my car until the end of the school year.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

Yessss, I love this thread. Sleeping in the car huh, maybe you should call Jewel and ask her for some advice (insert laughs here). New job huh, you still up for the Drink yourself stupid fest at my place in Buffalo this spring?

 

[Budgie]

New job huh, you still up for the Drink yourself stupid fest at my place in Buffalo this spring?

Roger, Roger -- Nanu Nanu -- out.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

Roger, Roger -- Nanu Nanu -- out.

Danger, Danger, what are you talking about?

 

[Cardinal]

OK, I took a new job and will start December 1.
I'll be running solo and sleeping in my car until the end of the school year.

So where will you be plugging in the Segway?

 

[Budgie]

So where will you be plugging in the Segway?

I've got an adaptor that will plug into my cigarette lighter, We'll see how long my car battery lasts. Of course the other option is to plug it in at Uncle Bubba's Bar where I'll be parked.

 

[Richmond Jake]

sleeping in my car until the end of the school year.

Great opportunities for some intense lacrosse games.

 

[SlaveToTheGrind]

Great opportunities for some intense lacrosse games.

That car you speak of sleeping in, is it a stick shift?

 

[el Guapo]

I've got an adaptor that will plug into my cigarette lighter, We'll see how long my car battery lasts. Of course the other option is to plug it in at Uncle Bubba's Bar where I'll be parked.

Where are you going to go Dude? Back to the old stomping (gliding) grounds?

 

[Budgie]

Where are you going to go Dude? Back to the old stomping (gliding) grounds?

Near there abouts. Perhaps you've heard of it. A tiny little outpost on the edge of civilization. An old cow town where the greyhounds roam free and the women all dip skoal.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

An old cow town where the greyhounds roam free and the women all dip skoal.

The womyn sound tasty out there.

 

[Jeff]

An old cow town where the greyhounds roam free and the women all dip skoal.

Dude, you're going to New Jersey? It really is bad, huh?

 

[el Guapo]

Near there abouts. Perhaps you've heard of it. A tiny little outpost on the edge of civilization. An old cow town where the greyhounds roam free and the women all dip skoal.

TESCOT??? WTF!!!


Oh, you mean Abilene...

 

[Budgie]

TESCOT??? WTF!!!


Oh, you mean Abilene...

Yeah, there are some real freaks living in Tescott, it's almost as bad as Moscow.

Abilene, prettiest town I ever seen, hoes don't treat ya mean in Abilene. OHHH, that's Abilene, Texas.

 

[Budgie]

Another leaf turned --

I pledge to get too drunk to fish before the end of the year. Throw caution to the wind. WOOHOO !!!! I've already got a couple of brew and wing dates set for my return to the homeland.

 

[H]

I pledge to get too drunk to fish before the end of the year.

Sweeeeeeeeet. I’ve been there. Bring a buddy.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

Sweeeeeeeeet. I’ve been there. Bring a buddy.

I plan to drink until I'm sober this year as well. Thats always a blast if you got the midnight oil burning.

 

[Budgie]

I plan to drink until I'm sober this year as well.

I've really tried that before. It doesn't work.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

I've really tried that before. It doesn't work.

Yeah I know, its just an excuse to drink more

 

[Budgie]

Well, the spouse went to see a lawyer last week. She's been stringing me along with false hope for awhile and she's thinks it's unfair for her to do so. We're on good terms, so the divorce will be uncontested provided she doesn't try to screw me. My priority is the kids, as it should be.

 

[el Guapo]

{real name goes here}
Sorry to hear that man. I do hope it all works out for you.
Kind Regards,
Guap

 

[NHPlanner]

Budgie:

All my best, having just been through the divorce wringer.....keep the kids as the first priority, and you're doing the right thing.

 

[Tranplanner]

Sorry to hear things didn't work out for you Budgie. I wish you good luck through the proceedings, and hope that you are able to maintain a good relationship with the ex and your kids.

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

Sorry to hear, good luck with the whole thing. I shall drink a beer for you in your quest for the best outcome.

 

[Planner Groupie]

I hope things go more smoothly then they have for myself. Keep your chin up!

 

[Gedunker]

Good luck, Budgie
"This, too, shall pass".

 

[PlannerByDay]

AWE Budgie, I sorry to hear thing did not workout for you.

It is gonna be a bumpy road for a while, but remember your not alone. As may of the previous posters have indicated they have gone through the samething. Your among friends here Budgie. We're here to help you through this.

Good luck, I'm sure I can speak for everyone here, we're rootin for you.

 

[Budgie]

I appreciate everyone's sentiments. As a fellow suburbianite told me last week, what I really need is to get laid?

 

[Rumpy Tunanator]

No, I think a well thought out bender is the first order of business:b:, but then again, what does a crack-smoking tuna fish know.

 

[NHPlanner]

what I really need is to get laid?

just don't try it with the ex....made that mistake, and paid for it dearly.

 

[Budgie]

just don't try it with the ex....made that mistake, and paid for it dearly.

Do tell. I need to learn from the mistakes of others.

 

[NHPlanner]

Do tell. I need to learn from the mistakes of others.

All I can say is that by sleeping with the ex before the divorce was finalized, made the emotional toll that much more than it already was.....plus when I ended it, it made things even more difficult to communicate rationally with her.

Plus it really does a number on any kids if they see mommy and daddy together one night, then apart afterwards (especially with a 5 year old).

 

[Budgie]

This is exactly part of what we're (it's not just about me) going through. Thanks to the heads up.

 

[giff57]

I appreciate everyone's sentiments. As a fellow suburbianite told me last week, what I really need is to get laid?

Chet was probably right ;-)

 

[Budgie]

Chet was probably right ;-)

It wasn't Chet, but I'm sure that would be his advise. He's been through this. Where is Chet anyway?

 

[NHPlanner]

This is exactly part of what we're (it's not just about me) going through. Thanks to the heads up.

Anytime. Feel free to PM me if you want any help off the boards.

 

[giff57]

It wasn't Chet, but I'm sure that would be his advise. He's been through this. Where is Chet anyway?

Of course it would, why do you think I wrote it

 

[Rem]

Good luck with getting through unscathed.

I appreciate everyone's sentiments about the kids - blah blah blah - but don't take your eye off the Segway. That would make one mighty tasty prize for a malevolent spouse. :-0

 

[Planner Groupie]

I didn't continue sexual relations with my ex because in my case, I knew he would take it the wrong way and think I wanted him back, not to mention two one night stands under his belt helped me with that decision.

 

[Seabishop]

I hope you get through all this as painlessly as possible - its probably for the best.

 

[Richmond Jake]

I've been watching this thread with interest because my partner announced to me last Friday morning that she wants a divorce. I'm devastated; difficulty in focusing at work; terrible feelings of anxiety; gut wrenching. But I'm not giving up without fight (maybe the wrong term); I just don't want this to happen.

 

[PlannerByDay]

I've been watching this thread with interest because my partner announced to me last Friday morning that she wants a divorce. I'm devastated; difficulty in focusing at work; terrible feelings of anxiety; gut wrenching. But I'm not giving up without fight (maybe the wrong term); I just don't want this to happen.

RichmondJake - Bummer to hear the bad news. How long have you been together? If your "not giving up without a fight" you must feel her reasons for leaving are irrational. Good luck buddy.

 

[Richmond Jake]

RichmondJake - Bummer to hear the bad news. How long have you been together? If your "not giving up without a fight" you must feel her reasons for leaving are irrational. Good luck buddy.

Thanks PBD. We've been married over 27 years; graduated form high school together. I don't believe she's thinking clearly (menopause?). She flew to California to see her mother on Sunday; just left a note saying she'd be gone for a week or so. I called her mom and asked for her support. We'll see.

 

[Budgie]

I've been watching this thread with interest because my partner announced to me last Friday morning that she wants a divorce. I'm devastated; difficulty in focusing at work; terrible feelings of anxiety; gut wrenching. But I'm not giving up without fight (maybe the wrong term); I just don't want this to happen.

I once heard someone say that you can't argue your way out of dumped. Despite this brilliant observation, I've been trying to "fight" to keep her. I've been going through this stage for about 6 months. I know the problems of focusing on work, paranoia and the unsettled stomach. When I found out she had a one-night stand, I lost 15 lbs in 10 days. I feel this way now and am somewhat relieved that we have decided to end it. She hasn't ruled out the possibility of getting back together in the future. We'll see what the future holds. Fortunately my new co-workers have been supportive and I've got my new community to focus on. It helps to get involved in the community. It helps me realize that I still have something to offer to others. Now if I can just shake the self-destructive behaviour. I'll be fine.

 

[Cardinal]

I haven't been through a divorce, but did go through something similar a few years back. My girlfriend of six years decided she wanted to move on about 2-3 months after I returned from the Gulf War. It was devastating, especially as after being gone for most of a year, I wanted desperately for my life to return to normal. Looking back, I realize that the best thing I did was to leave her completely behind. After splitting up I only saw her once again. It was hard. It took me a long time to get over. But doing it that way made me focus on looking forward. I have had other relationships where I tried to remain friends, but invariably something would come up where one or the other of us would get hurt again.

I'm not going to suggest that you deal with it one way or the other. Only you know your situation and how it may be best for you to handle it. I guess the one thing I would recommend is that you be upfront about discussing your expectations on how the two of you will relate in the future. Now if only I could follow my own advice....

Whatever the outcome, I wish you well.