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The Hijacked Favorite Billboards Thread (AKA relationship advice from Planners)

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LOL! I just checked the http://www.marrytheresa.com website and just can't decide what I like best about it.... I think it is the little hearts mousetail, but then, it could also be the "updates" section where you can sign up to be on her mailing list.
 

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KMateja said:
I think it is the little hearts mousetail, but then, it could also be the "updates" section where you can sign up to be on her mailing list.
I was thinking about having a mousetail of trailing hearts on Cyburbia, but it just doesn't seem right, for some reason.

Visit the site, and look at the photos, especially the first one with her new haircut. She looks exactly ... I mean EXACTLY like an old girlfriend of mine. Kinda' cute, actually.
 

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Love is in the air.

I sent a link to her site to a bachelor friend of mine.

PS ladies he is really sweet. Let me know if you want to make a love connection. Write for more info.

PPS I forgot to tell you he is nothing like me. So that should alay some well founded fears.
 

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Lol you guys wont stay out of other folks love life will you?

But then again if your office is as dead as mine today your looking for any reason to keep your brain from going totaly flat line.
 
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That Marry Theresa billboard reminds me of one that was posted here a couple of years ago. It was a big personals ad - "SWM Seeks Same" or something along those lines and his phone number. I wish I had a picture of it... :(
 

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Dan said:

I was thinking about having a mousetail of trailing hearts on Cyburbia, but it just doesn't seem right, for some reason.
You know, that billboard is really sad. It screams of desperation and loneliness. But the wen site. That's really sad.
 

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Life is far too short to wait around for random chance.

I respectfully disagree. I think it is a bold move and one to be respected. She is going after what she wants in a manner outside of the norm, that's all. If this gets her to happiness-land faster then I am glad for her.
 

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We can agree to disagree EG

She'll end up a cat lady for sure.
 

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Well, yeah...

The 8 cats thing is a given. No question there. I just thought it was a bold move on her part.
 

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Guys dont go for bold moves :-( trust me I know

Oh well she can live next to my 10 dog place.
 

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Hey CHET - No, I will not end up a cat lady, actually I hate cats!!! And, there is a HUGE difference between being creative and being desperate. Personally I feel like you must be jealous or threatened by my unique approach or your negativity would not be so high.

Thanks EL
 
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I don't know... it rather reeks of desperation to me. However, I've always had the opinion that one should get married because they've found someone they feel can support them and grow with, (and in my case, someone who will put up with all my bullshit, I mean, eccentricies), not get married just for the sake of being married to someone and definitely NOT to become a parent.

But I do admire her Moxie.
 

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Thanks KMateja

And no, not jealous. It's hard to be jealous of neurosis. Nothing personal.
 

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Moderator Minute

Just to let the Cyburbia gang know I sent MarryTheresa an email today letting her know of the discussion so that she might respond. It appears she has discovered the thread.

MarryTheresa - don't feel compelled to answer every comment made here. Around here we just kind of sum our position up and let the chips fall where they may. You will never be able answer all the postings on this thread - they will wear you out. And they might smell blood in the water. You don't want that.
 

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I'm going to take a step back - not from negativity of course - but put a moderator hat on and suggest that this thread, and least the last 9 hours of it, get wiped away.

Oh, and mods, be sure to check for my take. Sorry to implicate you Dan!

http://www.catsbackalley.com/humor/crazy_cat_lady.html
 
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Let me be the voice of reason here. (Those of you who know me my stop laughing at any time...)

I agree with EG, it is a very bold move. She apparently knows what she is looking for and now can sit back to wade through the responses. SHREWD, I SAY!! What person wouldn't want to be in the enviable position of have a supermarket-esque opportunity to choose their spouse. I may use this appraoch if my search for the woman of my dreams becomes dire...but I digress.

I watched the movie Door To Door this past Sunday night about a man with moderate cerebral palsy founction from the 50s to today. As he grew older he became more lonely. Father dies when he was young. Mother developed Alzheimers...it was sad. It was on TNT (thankfully not on WE, Lifetime, or Oxygen, because then I would have had a whole series of questions for myself...) Nobody wants to be alone, but some of us will end up that way...

That's does it. Anybody have the # for Eller or ABC Advertising??? What was the # on the light post ad service? Oh, what about the company that advertises in fromt of urnals? Not that I want to be posted up in the men's room...do they have those ads in the womens room???

I am suddenly in a panick. Help!! Planner Girl?!? Anyone??

I need a hug. Hold me.
 
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Prudence - I saw that movie too. It was good, but Bill Porter's loneliness was a result of his reluctance to depend on anyone. He was so determined to prove his independence that he didn't realize that it's okay to need or depend on other people.

Now, back to your dilemna. We can put your picture and phone number on the non-functioning feminine products machine in the women's restrooms - that should get a response. The restroom attendants can hand out a card with your vital stats as they hand out towels for the ladies to dry their hands. There's no end to what we can do for you prudence!!!! ;) :D
 

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Here's the pic for you, planderella

He's going to kill me.


EDITORS NOTE: PHOTO DELETED
 

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Bigguns

Planderella may be onto something.

You know I saw an advertisment for feminine products for the larger gals last night on the TV. Something about big women needing big protection.

Anyway I'm thinking we could print your resume on the cover and have room for a photo? Consider this a free one.
 

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El Guapo said:
Planderella may be onto something.

Anyway I'm thinking we could print your resume on the cover and have room for a photo? Consider this a free one.
Prudence : Now for women size 14 and larger.
 

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Where does one go to meet large pre-menopausal asian women?

Is this afternoon of postin escalating badly out of control, or is it just me?
 

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Re: Here's the pic for you, planderella

Originally posted by Chet
He's going to kill me.
Prudence is going to tear you apart....he's a lot bigger than you....and it looks like a can of "whoop ass" is on the shelf behind him. :)
 

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More hijacks today than 9-11.

Ummm. yeah. out of control.

*goes to remove prudence's pic*
 

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More hijack....

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*goes to remove prudence's pic*
Smart move. :)

For those that have never see chet and Prudence side by side....lets just say that chet may have been squashed like a little bug.....although you do control his paycheck....so you'll probably make it out of the office relatively unscathed...
 

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How am I going to find the woman of my dreams if they think I am violent and imbalanced. That's the picture from the Department website...anyone can see it anytime they want. I wouldn't advise it, but you can see it.

Oh, and that's a can of Billy Beer behind me.
 

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prudence said:
How am I going to find the woman of my dreams if they think I am violent and imbalanced.
If El Guapo can get some then so can you my friend! Some chicks dig violent and imbalanced. Chet care to chime in? You own a Harley and have used your imbalance to good effect...Cheer the lad up a bit with stories of biker chicks and planners havin a good time...
 

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El Guapo said:


Chet care to chime in? You own a Harley and have used your imbalance to good effect...
I'm not going to say anything.
 

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Hey, I own a Triumph and just got back from a 5 day trip to Canada...of course the Canadians seem somewhat reserved. The world needs decadence...in moderation.
 

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Anybody else out there like this??? This is one of my favorite bartenders in Milwaukee.

Note the Jameson Whiskey T-shirt, all the booze, and a Guinness sign....
 

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PlannerGirl said:
Guys dont go for bold moves :-( trust me I know
Wanna' bet? Sometimes, we need a push! I'm terrible at reading signals, and way too many times in the past, I've misinterpreted what normally are in-your-face signs. The women I meet are either:
* very tactile and friendly, but they're "that way to everybody they meet," so I get a "false positive," or
* they're quiet and cold, and later discover that I read a "false negative" when I found out they were really attracted to me.

I'm very social, but also very shy. Hard to explain, really. I'm also hesitant to make the first move, because in recent years there's an increasing "all men are players" or "all men are potential rapists" sentiment among many women. Trying to hold a woman's hand is "making a move," and possibly seen in a negative light.

Sigh.
 

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Signals

I recommend the "Breakfast Date." Arrange to meet her in the morning for a walk and breakfast. There is Zero pressure in that situation. Of course she may think you are cheap and weird. But it worked for me.

Reading signals: Women will expect you to know what they are thinking the rest of your life. Even experienced sensitive modern guys like me miss the signals on the rare occasion.

You could try this classic: "Excuse me, I'm attracted to you, but I am clueless if you are attracted to me. I can be easily molded and I am fairly tidy and can hold a job. I can give you a list of my ex girlfriends if you want to vette me. Could I call you sometime? Please, I'm harmless. "

I have used the above to good effect.

signals_1.jpg
 

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Re: Life is far too short to wait around for random chance.

Chet[/i] [B]She'll end up a cat lady for sure. [/B][/QUOTE] Hey said:
I respectfully disagree. I think it is a bold move and one to be respected. She is going after what she wants in a manner outside of the norm, that's all. If this gets her to happiness-land faster then I am glad for her.
I have to agree. Huevos grande. I would have considered doing the same, if I weren't a card-carrying member of Scenic America. (I let out a huge sigh when my Theresa-lookalike ex told me she leased a few billboards as part of her campaign for public office.) Besides, I'd probably appear on some tri-vision board, and the panels would change to an ad for a strip joint or a vasectomy clinic in Houston before someone could get the entire URL.

Desperate? Yeah, many single folks are, but it's taboo to admit it. Some folks feel the void in their heart more than others. I'll admit to my presence on match.com ...
 

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Dan's right it is taboo to admit you would like a companion in the singles scene (wow-that phrase dates me). However you will eventually decide to cut through the crap and tell potential companions the 411 right off the bat to save you both time and anguish.
 

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MarryTheresa said:
Planner Girl - You are so mistaken. 5,000 so far have gone for my BOLD move. Sorry!
Hmmmm ...

If it's really her ... I mean, 5,000 guys? Sounds like we're the desperate ones. :D

She's cute and sincere, but I probably wouldn't write if I lived in Nashville. I couldn't measure up to the competition. Yeah, I'm a damn good catch, but there's an awful lot of fish in that well stocked pond. It's hard enough if you write to someone on match.com, and your letter is one of tens or hundreds that she recieved ... many of those from men who are taller than you, richer than you, better looking than you or more geographically desirable than you.
 
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Re: Re: Life is far too short to wait around for random chance.

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Desperate? Yeah, many single folks are, but it's taboo to admit it. Some folks feel the void in their heart more than others. I'll admit to my presence on match.com ...
Sorry Dan, but I have to disagree. Although I've seen many of my friends marry and have children over the past five years, I still don't feel bad about being single at the ripe old age of 30. My philosophy may change over the next few years or so, but for the time being, I'm happy with it and definitely not ashamed to say "Yeah, I'm single! So what??" :)
 

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Originally posted by El Guapo
MarryTheresa - don't feel compelled to answer every comment made here. Around here we just kind of sum our position up and let the chips fall where they may. You will never be able answer all the postings on this thread - they will wear you out. And they might smell blood in the water. You don't want that.
I'll make sure that doesn't happen. At Cyburbia, we're a friendly gang of urban planners, city geeks, students, and who knows what else.

Originally posted by Chet
I'm going to take a step back - not from negativity of course - but put a moderator hat on and suggest that this thread, and least the last 9 hours of it, get wiped away.
Hey ... it's staying! This is a part of Cyburbia history! Alls we need now is a photo of a PVC-clad PlannerGirl and some poetry from a certain civil servant for a large California municipality who used to visit these parts, and we'll hit the 20,000 post mark before Friday! Whee!

I spent all afternoon sending out courtesy referrals. I missed all the fun.

Please review the materials enclosed with this packet, and return them with any comments on or before the town Development Review Committee (DRC) date noted below ... poop.
 
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MarryTheresa said:
And, there is a HUGE difference between being creative and being desperate.
All that talk about pools, rivers, swimming and waterfalls... and not ONE pic of you in a bikini!

What's up with THAT?!
 

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Gotta disagree, Plannergirl. I admire independent, fearless, unconventional women. Especially ones with dogs. Bring on the bold moves!
 

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Collection of thoughts on a wild list

Wow I need to log on at night from home-this got fun while i was away! Lol I look better in latex than PVC but it costs a bit much for this planners income.

Bold moves, you like those? DAMN move to DC the place must be full of REPUBLICANS *shivers with fright*

Im not on match but the more urban hip Nerve, everyone seems to be attys or physics nuts.

Im glad to see my fellow planners have some fun as well I thought I was the only freaky planner.


Who needed a hug? I got some to spare <<hugs>>

Dan Im not about to put my pic up here, lol ask real sweet and ill send ya one but im not posting it - i may be nuts but im not crazy ;-)

D
 

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That's not fair Plannergirl!!!!! Why should Dan have all the fun?

BTW - now that you're on the prowl again, when exactly are you headed to Orlando?

I'm thinking it may be destiny, ya know.
 

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Re: Re: Life is far too short to wait around for random chance.

Dan said:
I'll admit to my presence on match.com ...
Don't give up on it Dan. I was a match member for a couple of years....and I met my wife through match.com. :)
 

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I met a few women through the internet when I was up north a few years ago. Had a bit of fun, but by and large - ugh. I think it was more a symptom of the town I was in though.

Of course, I did meet my future wife up there. Not through the internet though.

PlannerGirl said:
Lol one month from today.
Okay Dan - it's your move. I can do no more :)
 
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And all this started from a discussion on billboards. Amazing.

As for being single...it doesn't bother me now. I am enjoying each day and night. I figure my fears will hit when I am 35-ish...so I have time. The issue is, many of us are past that time in our life where we are surrounded by members of the opposite sex in a casual environment. The women I tend to meet when I am out seem preoccupied with looking and acting trendy. Don't get me wrong, I am looking for a contemporary woman in mind, body, and spirit...but not 24/7. And trying to find a politically conservative woman is near impossible... Finally, when you do meet someone it seems like a SPRINT to the altar. EG, what was that website again??

Lately though, I seem to attract women who are 21-ish. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I am now 30. I may look a few years younger, but I am 30. What in the hell am I going to talk about with a woman who is 21? Her roommates? Her classes? At that age all I really remember was drinking and thinking I understood the world.

That's it...I am quitting my job and going back to the university to work on my Ph.D.

I just had an epiphany...

And why is it when you ARE dating someone, you meet every attractive woman under the sun, but when you aren't you are more alone than Hillary Clinton in the White house bedroom??
 

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politically conservative woman ?

Well ya had me till ya got to "politically conservative woman"


not I. Im consertvative with my money but thats about it. I personaly dont know any conservative women.

:-(
 
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