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Who do planners date

PlannerGirl

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Ok all this dating talk has got me thinking...who DO planners date? Who actualy works out to be a good mate? Do planners date other planners? Engineers? Lawyers? Mullet heads?

We seem to be a pretty politicaly aware bunch, community minded, etc who makes the mark for us?

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Planner Spouses in my office:
1. Another Planner/GIS guy
2. Elementary School Teacher
3. Elem. School Librarian
4. Website developer
 

Chet

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Being recently re-single after 13 years, when I get around to dating I'd really prefer not to date a politcally aware person. Too draining. I'd compare it to a woman that dates a gynecologist, and he comes home and says, "Oh honey, if I have to see another one of those..."

I think I'll go for the bartender or ADHD afflicted.
 

Repo Man

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Planners date whoever will put up with them commenting on and critiquing every single sign, building, city, landscaping, parking lot, main street, streetlight, street system, etc. You can't take a planner anywhere without them making several planning-related comments. It drives my friends nuts!
 

Tranplanner

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My fiancee is a student, and wants to be a mortician...

The spouses of planners in my office include the following professions:

Teacher
Physiotherapist
Lab Technician
Human Resources Manager
Other planners
Hospital Administrator
Exotic Dancer














Okay, I made that last one up.
 

Repo Man

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My grad school program created numerous planner-architect and planner-planner relationships that are still going strong after graduation. I think it is similar to law school, where you spend so much time with a small close-knit group of people that relationships are bound to happen.
 

Dan

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Let's see ... the last women I dated that I could safely call "girlfriends" included an attorney and a voice coach/voiceover artist. Women I've had dates with in the recent past include a hotel sales manager, Internet marketing firm owner, singer, hotel concierge, pharmacist, and a television news reporter.

I've historically clicked well with other planners (although dating opportunities have seldom come up), print and broadcast media professionals, visual and performing artists, and marketing professionals. I had a huge crush on a traffic engineer at my last job, but she dated "Joe Colorado" types -- the 6'2" six-pack abbed types who lead lifestyles from the pages of Outdoor magazine.

This sounds a bit elitist, but I prefer dating women that are either students or working professionals ... basically, a peer. Political orientation doesn't matter, but I don't fancy the prospect of long term companionship with someone who is evangelical or fundamentalist in their faith. I don't want to be viewed as a potential subject for witnessing and/or conversion, or as less equal because of my spiritual beliefs. Likewise, I feel like I' m walking on eggshells when I've with someone who is too crunchy and/or progressive. One ex considered my picky eating to be racist because I was "shunning the foods" of certain cultures. Seriously.

Several years ago, at an APA national conference in Orlando, I had the huevos to ask a woman who was in line at a buffet to join me for lunch. We were buddies throughout the conference, and we really hit it off quite well. We've gotten together at every conference I've been to after that. Much as I wanted to, I never kissed her, never tried to "make a move." The logistics of long distance romance, especially to someone who is romantically challenged like me, would be a very difficult barrier to jump.
 

Chet

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In our office:

Other halves are:

none/single
retired
school teacher
none/single
none/single
none/single
 

giff57

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I'm married to a Hair Stylist, it is amazing the kinds of information I get on townspeople....
 

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My wife: skills instructor for developmentally disabled adults. Wants to be a physical education teacher after finishing school eventually.
 

PlannerGirl

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who i have dated

Lets see for me I've dated too many attys to mention, a couple physicists, CEOs of their own softwear/internet/etc companies, one engineer and one swiss banker *the gated community guy*

So many geeks


Never had the chance to date another planner. Most I know are old, married and a bit to...stuffy for me.
 

Chet

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PlannerGirl said:
Where are you Chet, sounds like i might have beter luck there!
I'm comfortably off the market for a while, sorry. :(
 

nerudite

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Despite being a confidant professional, I have never really liked dating other professionals (see bturk's opinion on gynecologists). I usually am attracted to the rugged blue-collar type guy... but with some serious brains and a wicked sense of humor. I've dated a student (who is now a geneticist), a waiter, a computer programmer, and quite a few blue collar guys. My current bf is an ex-computer programmer turned forklift operator... so he's the brainy tough guy type I like.

As for other planners in the office:
-Aspiring news reporter (currently waitress)
-Space/interior planner (setting up offices and stuff)
-School teacher
-Physical therapist

The last job I had in the States had a lot of planner pairings, since most of the people I knew met in grad school.
 

Glomer

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My wife is an elementary school teacher. It appears to me that this is pretty common for planners to be married to someone in the education field. Why?

My wife loves kids, loves teaching, and absolutely hates anything to do with governement, policy, and politics. I guess that is why it works.
 

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nerudite said:
Maybe school teachers and education types are the only ones that can listen to whining/complaining all day long and have it roll off them. :)
Perhaps we should date the deaf...
 
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I've dated professional men (mostly arrogant pricks). I've got my eye an engineer right now........................;)
 

Tranplanner

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Planderella said:
I've dated professional men (mostly arrogant pricks). I've got my eye an engineer right now........................;)
Poor guy...sounds like he doesn't stand a chance :p
 
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Tranplanner said:


Poor guy...sounds like he doesn't stand a chance :p
Note to self: Some of these boards are not meant to be read while consuming beverages or with a mouth full of food!!! Thanks for the choke of the day Tranplanner! :D ROFL

I can be the biggest flirt but when it comes to making the first move, that's when my G.R.I.T.S. mentality kicks in and I wait for the guy to do it. I'm not nearly as bold as people think I am. :)
 

el Guapo

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Besides Carmen

I wish to maintain my political viability so I will remain mute on this issue.
 

Cardinal

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Let's see, a few teachers, an attorney, a couple social workers, a few non-profit sector administrative types.... It really doesn't matter to me what they do for a living so long as 1) they enjoy the outdoors and travel, and 2) they do not and never will have cats.

Beyond that, I tend to find myself attracted to women who are independent, self-relient, have opinions, and are intelligent. I suppose it would also be nice if they were either very wealthy or a swimsuit model. Better yet, they could have a dog.
 

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Michael Stumpf said:
I suppose it would also be nice if they were either very wealthy or a swimsuit model. Better yet, they could have a dog.
And why not all three?!
 

Tranplanner

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Planderella said:

I can be the biggest flirt but when it comes to making the first move, that's when my G.R.I.T.S. mentality kicks in and I wait for the guy to do it. I'm not nearly as bold as people think I am. :)
Maybe you can drop your lacy hankie when he walks by? Didn't that work for Scarlet?
 

PlannerGirl

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I got dogs but not in any way shape or form a swim suit model or loaded with money. Come on Im a planner.

Geeky with a twist.

washed the hell hounds last night-gotta find a boyfriend to do that! Or at least clean the furclog out.
 
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Tranplanner said:


Maybe you can drop your lacy hankie when he walks by? Didn't that work for Scarlet?
It may have worked for Scarlet back in the day, but now we have to be a little more forward/risque. I may have to start dropping lacy thongs.
 

PlannerGirl

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"I may have to start dropping lacy thongs."

Lol have you seen the new lace ones VS has? GREAT stuff! or of course you can do the slutny spears look and get your sign etc put on your thong.

VS is my best friend :)
 
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"I may have to start dropping lacy thongs."

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how Planner Porn was invented.
 

el Guapo

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DIE KITTY DIE

They are starting to ask questions around my work about all the furry black marks in the parking lot that smell like burnt chicken and old lady sipinster apartments.

Dan can we have a Plannermate of the Month! Please! Pretty Please!
 
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Funkadelic Porn Music in background

Big Burly GIS guy, with oddly bushy mustache: (walks into cubicle) So... (lewd wink) someone requested a hard copy of the zoning map revision?

Dainty Southern Planner: (stands up slowly and suggestively drawls as she drops lacy thong VS panties) That's not all I'd like a hard copy of.....

Christ, I'm procrastinating minutes writing today.
 

PlannerGirl

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Ok my turn to snarful

Damn KMateja i just had nasty visions of folks i used to work with


ewwwww SQUICK!

but funny as hell
 

Chet

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DIE KITTY DIE PART 2

El Guapo relaxes - and tries to release the tension - after reviewing the photos for Plannermate of the month.
 

el Guapo

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Caution This Post Contains Adult Material

GRITS Character: Why Mr. Zoning Administrator, why whatever must I do to receive a variance to save the family farm?

Character loosely Based on Dan: Why Miss I'm sure we can work something out....perhaps this thing I'm holding right here.
 

Tranplanner

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i'm beginning to wonder if Dan regrets his desire to bring more traffic to Cyburbia...

VS, Plannergirl? Thought you'd be more of a Fredericks' Girl :)
 

el Guapo

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Why, Kitty, Why?

A post containing material by bTurk, Plannergirl, KMataja and myself has 73% chance of going pornographic. Explain?
 

Chet

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Oh, well in that case...

jtfortin said:
I'll give Chet the award for the best collection of strange jpegs.
DISCUSS: (and as El Guapo notes, I'm right on the statistical probability today)
 

Tranplanner

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Re: Why, Kitty, Why?

El Guapo said:
A post containing material by bTurk, Plannergirl, KMataja and myself has 73% chance of going pornographic. Explain?
Only a 73% chance?
 
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Code Enforcement Dominatrix: Sir, if you do not remove your illegal structures off the greenspace, I'm going to have to issue you an order to remedy.

Big Burly Mobil Home Dealer: I'll remove my offending structure when you remove your...lacy VS thong!



I could write planner porn all day.
 

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Female Planner: But sir, this proposal does not adhere to the principles of Smart Growth.

Developer: I don't know how smart it is, but I feel something growing down below.
 
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