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Who do planners date

Zoning Goddess

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The last guy I dated was a biologist who had no problem slapping asphalt over gopher tortoise burrows. It would never have worked...
 
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Hmm. In the last twelve months I have dated:

* an Occupational Therapist
* Veterinarian specializing in large-animals
* French Literature Professor at local College (current)

I've done well. I miss the vet though. She moved to Saskatchewan, and there was no chance of going there... BrrrRRRRRrrrrrr...

winter2.jpg


WAY too cold. And flat.

(sigh... she wasn't...)
 

Richmond Jake

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This planner is off the meet-market for a while. But I see myself dating again and establishing a relationship (provided she's....ooops, I better not :-$ , the mods would be all over me).
 

JNL

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Wow old thread!

JNL said:
I'm going on a date tonight, with a builder/labourer

That was a disaster - found out later he lied about his age too :-$

Current interest is a graphic designer :l:
 

nighthawk1959

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Date? What's that?

Me? Historically, I couldn't get a date in a cat house with a pocket full of hendred dollar bills. Oh well, I still have my cat.
 

donk

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Cardinal said:
Ha! Mine too! Three weeks now and going well, how about you?

Something must be going around, the woman I probably have a date with on saturday is in school for graphic design and illustration. Finalize plans tonight.
 

michaelskis

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Lets see, last few Girl Friends… (over the past few years)
Dated a student who was in school to become a wedding planner
Dated a girl who was going for social work
Dated a girl who worked for a county convention and visitor’s center as a marketing/sales person, (and was a model too)
Dated a girl who is finishing up med school

So… I am single again, and I enjoy being single as of right now.

I guess I am just picky and want a woman who is a great balance, likes skiing or snowboarding, and has the same ethical and moral values as I do. She can be liberal if she wants to be.
 

JNL

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Cardinal said:
Ha! Mine too! Three weeks now and going well, how about you?

We're not officially together - hasn't come up yet. But that's ok, am having fun. For a while there I wasn't sure if things were going ok as I don't hear from him or see him that often except weekends, but I've realised it doesn't necessarily inidicate a lack of interest. Seems to be going very well :) Tonight I have booked tickets to a play for a surprise.
 

JNL

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Zoning Goddess said:
The last guy I dated was a biologist who had no problem slapping asphalt over gopher tortoise burrows.

Wow... :-c :-@ :-o 8-! :loser:
 

Chet

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Zoning Goddess said:
The last guy I dated was a biologist who had no problem slapping asphalt over gopher tortoise burrows. It would never have worked...

soooo...I'm guessing that was not a sexual metaphor, but a true "job skill" :-c
 

PlannerGirl

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Ive been with the same guy now...17months-no more lawyers for me!

He is a former computer geek that now spends his time doing my "honey do" list :p and watching Va Tech football.
 

PlannerByDay

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michaelskis said:
Dated a girl who was going for social work

Been there, don't that, and would never do it again.

I've dated, before I became happily married,

A factory worker/CAD student
A secretary for a Tech Start up / Student
A Teacher
and
Instructor at a local Nature Center.
 

FueledByRamen

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Nobody:(

Well, not quite true, I am gaining interest in this girl I know...we are both geography majors. Im interested in transportation planning, she is interested in demographics.


(BTW, after talking to some people at a TxDOT townhall meeting...why does everyone consider transportation planning to be a civil engineering feild?)
 

Mastiff

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FueledByRamen said:
(BTW, after talking to some people at a TxDOT townhall meeting...why does everyone consider transportation planning to be a civil engineering feild?)

Because whatever you plan, civil engineers will **** it up.
 

Cirrus

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This one girl in my office dates a big Bush supporter... and he's a total NIMBY on planning issues.

:) Hee hee.
 

PlannerByDay

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FueledByRamen said:
Is she a NIMBY....sexually?


(was that over the top? sorry :( )

ROTFLMAO

Butt wait. What does the "B" stand for "Back" or "Bum" and does the "Y" Stand for "Yard" or "Yet"
 

SkeLeton

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Wow.. this is an oooold thread...

As a member of the Asocial Cyburbianites Clube, I won't say much, because I believe I've said it all now. :p
 

Seabishop

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I've never dated a planner and I think it would be annoying to come home and have the question "so, how was your day?" answered with more stories about planning work.

Early childhood teachers are, of course, the best. (as long as they're not the bossy, loudmouth kind) :)
 

Lee Nellis

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Before Karen, AICP, I was married to one, and seriously dated another, poetry-loving librarian. They were too nice to be in touch with a planner's reality. Karen understands.
 

CCMNUT39

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Is this a good or bad thing?

As far as dating, there have not been too many cute gals in planning here in Washington, though it seems that Oregon has the dibs on that.

In the past, I have dated:
Hairdressers
Software Designers
Teachers
Nurses

One of my former gf's asked me this in the middle of Mel Gibson's "Patriot." "When did we ever fight the British?????????????" Sssssssssssssssh hunny, look! Mel Gibson's butt!!

My current beau/so/paininthebutt and I have been together for over 5 years now. And she's a nurse, a wonderful woman, and a great mother.

On a side note, she totally puts up with me doing a community critique whenever we are in the car. Even better, she asks relevant questions and points other things out. If she wasn't a nurse, she should have been a planner, but she lacks the political temperment.
 

michaelskis

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We have talked about their professions, now what about characteristics?

For me, it would be a woman with grace and elegance, intelligent, slim yet fit, social, outgoing, similar religious beliefs, affectionate, caring, ambitious, on the girly side, and attractive. Most of the women I have dated have fallen significantly into one to two of these characteristics. Only one has had everything I was looking for… but that was several years ago and her and I went different ways. Is that too much to ask for?

What about you? What Characteristics do you look for in a potential S.O.
 

donk

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michaelskis said:
We have talked about their professions, now what about characteristics?

For me, it would be a woman with grace and elegance, intelligent, slim yet fit, social, outgoing, similar religious beliefs, affectionate, caring, ambitious, on the girly side, and attractive. Most of the women I have dated have fallen significantly into one to two of these characteristics. Only one has had everything I was looking for… but that was several years ago and her and I went different ways. Is that too much to ask for?

What about you? What Characteristics do you look for in a potential S.O.

With a question like this you are bound to get some of us into trouble. ;)
 

FueledByRamen

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michaelskis said:
We have talked about their professions, now what about characteristics?

For me, it would be a woman with grace and elegance, intelligent, slim yet fit, social, outgoing, similar religious beliefs, affectionate, caring, ambitious, on the girly side, and attractive. Most of the women I have dated have fallen significantly into one to two of these characteristics. Only one has had everything I was looking for… but that was several years ago and her and I went different ways. Is that too much to ask for?

What about you? What Characteristics do you look for in a potential S.O.

Lets see...a good sense of humor, honest, in fairly good shape (I dont want a girl who is always talking about how fat she is), a good conversationist, socially aware, thoughtful, kind, not too touchy-feely....but not acting like a leper, somewhat similar religous beliefs....I want a girl that believes in something and would probably prefer a christian or a jew...deffinately not a mormon, scientologist, menonite, or any fundamentalist of any religion....(presbyterian would be choice ;) )

ummm.....someone that gets along with my friends, someone that won't get annoyed when I talk to much about cars or music or gripe about politics or pop culture. Someone that would move around with me. Someone with her own mind and goals, someone with similar thoughts on marriage, kids, and sex.

the sense of humor thing is important...I love making people laugh. So is honesty, I dont want a lot of games...and if something is bothering her, i want her to tell me and not just supress it until it reaches a boiling point.

Theres more, but I think these are the most important.
 

Zoning Goddess

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Sense of humor
Good ass in jeans
Like beards/mustaches
Southern is a plus
No engineers, please
No country music
 

nighthawk1959

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ZG, It seems I fit your profile. Anyway, what I look for is beauty, primarily inner beauty. A lady who can keep up with a conversation is becoming very rare in my area. Of course, at my age, all the great ones and most of the good ones are taken so I just wait for lightening to strike.
 

michaelskis

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sisterceleste said:
Since you work with engineers, this limits your potential for meeting guys.

I know how a job can limit the potential for meeting women. In my job, everyone at least 5 years older than I am, and most everyone is Married.

Most of the people who come into the office are guys, so that does not help things much.
 

Zoning Goddess

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nighthawk1959 said:
ZG, It seems I fit your profile. Anyway, what I look for is beauty, primarily inner beauty. A lady who can keep up with a conversation is becoming very rare in my area. Of course, at my age, all the great ones and most of the good ones are taken so I just wait for lightening to strike.

Got a jeans picture? ;-)
 

nighthawk1959

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not currently

ZG, I currently do not have that technology. Which means no, not now. Sorta makes me wish I was still trucking into Fla instead of staying at home.
 

H

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Mrs. H doesnt let me date. :-( ;-)

But she is a teacher... I think that is a good professional personality match for a planner... both sorta work for a "greater good" if you will... :)
 

Salmissra

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My husband is a computer geek. He spends a lot of time working on inanimate objects and talks with a lot of other techinical people. The computer geek/planner mix works for us.
In my office, we have a wide variety of spousal occupations, including (but not limited to):

-pharmacist
-transportion planner
-community planner
-teacher (1 junior high, 1 high school)
-banker
-inventory specialist
-car sales
-something with petroleum company

As for characteristics, I think a planner definately needs someone who is willing to listen to rants about the (stupid) public/developers/real estate agents/whoever else you deal with, complaints about night meetings (or in my case, afternoon meetings that turn into night meetings), has lots of patience, has a flexible schedule, and is someone who can manage to live on a planner's salary.
 

donk

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Salmissra said:
and is someone who can manage to live on a planner's salary.

Amen to the last one, it was a contributing factor to me being dumped.

"You realize that adults don't make as little as you do, don't you?"

First date on the weekend went well, probably going to go out again soon.
 

PlannerByDay

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With all due respect, my friend.

michaelskis said:
For me, it would be a woman with grace and elegance, intelligent, slim yet fit, social, outgoing, similar religious beliefs, affectionate, caring, ambitious, on the girly side, and attractive. Most of the women I have dated have fallen significantly into one to two of these characteristics.

That is a pretty stiff list of requirements, but not 100% unrealistic.

michaelskis said:
Only one has had everything I was looking for… but that was several years ago and her and I went different ways. Is that too much to ask for?

IMHO, Yes, I think it is to much to ask, but if you can be a little flexibe in your requirements you will find someone who may be short in one or two of you requirements. BUT you shouldn't be single or disappointed with dating for ever.


I have found my S.O. and married her his past September the characteristics she has that attracted me to here include:
Similar outdoor interests (biking, hiking, camping, kayaking, gardening, walking, drinking beer, x-country skiing, downhill skiing, etc)
Similar indoor interests (food, cooking, drinking beer, reading, se :-x )
Great sense of humor
Fun loving,
Gainfully employed,
Cute,
Down to earth

and I could go on.
 

The One

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He he he

Zoning Goddess said:
Sense of humor
Good ass in jeans
Like beards/mustaches
Southern is a plus
No engineers, please
No country music

We should meet... ;-) :-o ;-) :D

PS: Just kidding....but you must have good taste in men....
 

Dan

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Okay ... I just found a match.com profile with a Burnham quote in it.

"Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir men's blood...Make big plans, aim high in hope and work."
The profile reads:
What do you do for fun?

I am intensely curious and constantly exploring new places and activities. I will try or learn about new things that intrigue me. I love the outdoors but am equally comfortable at an art gallery. Biking, off-beat movies, Sunday NYT are musts.

About me and who I'd like to date

Hello ! I am a 37 year old professional who works to live - rather than living to work. I am athletic, adventurous, honest, funny, silly, serious, introspective, well read, educated and kind. I work pretty hard and play hard. I moved to Cleveland three years ago from Chicago for my job. I am looking for someone who has had a breadth of experience and knows what they want but doesn't run over people trying to get it. You must be kind, honest, non-judgmental, don't take yourself too seriously, can have a laugh, like to see non-mainstream movies, like to travel, and can enjoy a day driving around looking at old buildings.

If she's not a planner's girl, I don't know who is.

Sorry, Mike.
politics: Very Liberal
 

donk

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Planderella said:
I was going to ask the same thing!
cardinal said:
Sounds good to me, Dan. So when are the two of you hooking up?


Great minds do think alike, it was the first thought through my head also. Even without knowing who Burnham is.
 

Dan

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I dropped her a line. She wrote back about 15 minutes later. Guess what she does? Uh huh. ;)
 

Dan

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Zoning Goddess said:
But is she a size 12 or smaller?

I didn't see a smiley in there.

I'm never going to live that down, am I?
 

Cardinal

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Dan said:
I dropped her a line. She wrote back about 15 minutes later. Guess what she does? Uh huh. ;)

Engineer? Architect? Developer? C'mon, let's have some hints. ;)
 
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Dan said:
I didn't see a smiley in there.

I'm never going to live that down, am I?
Hey, I only mention such things because when a guy has trouble getting a date and then talks like that, I wince and wish desperately that I could take him to a store that sells Clues and buy him a few as a Christmas present. Can't you feel the love?? :a:
 

Dan

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Michele Zone said:
Hey, I only mention such things because when a guy has trouble getting a date and then talks like that, I wince and wish desperately that I could take him to a store that sells Clues and buy him a few as a Christmas present. Can't you feel the love?? :a:

Posting that, I knew you would chime in. You didn't disappoint me.

Because I can't find an appropriate smiley, I'm going to post a bulletin from the University of Toronto.

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